Her parents disapprove, what's your play?

[burningyen]

Let's say you've been dating a girl seriously for a while now, you both love each other dearly and are ready to settle down. You both come from a conservative ethnic background (Korean, if it matters). She's finally met your parents and all's well with them. But then you discover her parents disapprove of you and your family and refuse to meet you. The reasons are that you were once previously engaged to another woman 7 years ago (you told your gf about this early on, but her parents found out through the grapevine) and your parents come from a lesser background than hers (your dad is an Ivy League-educated professor and your mom is a physician; her dad is a CEO and has a net worth at least an order of magnitude more than your family's). You graduated from an Ivy League college and an Ivy League law school and make a comfortable six figures. She's absolutely distraught over her parents' disapproval, and it's not clear what will happen to your relationship if you don't win them over. Her dad is especially stubborn. If you get the chance to meet her folks, what do you say to them?

[StevieG]

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If you get the chance to meet her folks, what do you say to them?

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"At least I'm not Chinese." <font color="white">Good friend is Chinese married to Korean woman whose family was not too happy about it. Plus, her older sister did manage to snare the Harvard-educated investment banker, so it was just one more strike against him.</font>

[jba]

how close is she to them.

my initial reaction is to avoid them when possible. when you must interact with them be polite and respectful.

[blinden84]

play him HU, if you win, the daughter is yours, if he wins, you walk.

[StevieG]

In all seriousness, if you have a chance to meet, stress to them that you value the same things they do (family, education, tradition) and that you will strive for success in your career to provide the best home possible.

Treat the prior engagement like you would the question of "why did you leave your last job" on an interview. Step around it as much as possible, and no bad-mouthing.

[dcasper70]

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If you get the chance to meet her folks, what do you say to them?

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"I'll dump her for 5 mil"

[zac7179]

I was somewhat in the same boat as u. I was married before and got divorced she cheated on me and I cheated on her. The girl I got engaged to is from a deeply relgious family and had alot of problems with me being divorced. But they respectedour choice, didn't agree with it but respected it, and now we are married and things are ok between her folks and me, up and down but thats the way it is with inlaws at first. When u do meet them be respectful. Be yourself. Everything esle works itself out. U love her? she love u? Not to sound like a hopeless romantic but thats all it takes. As long as both of you are commited to the relationship the two of u togther can make it through anything. But not cheating that is the one thing that is impossible to work through. But everything else is possible.

[NT!]

say nothing. elope, then kill them.

[samjjones]

Please watch Wayne's World 2 for the suggested course of action.

[adanthar]

As a white man married to a Korean, kill them and replace them with my wife's parents, because from what I hear that's about your only option if their daughter is pliant enough.

PS: wait until they find out about the poker, that's sure to go well.