In divorce does 50/50 always apply?

[russellmj]

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He doesn't "want" a divorce, he's just left with no other real option. He's beat down, mentally, emotionaly, spiritually, and physically. It's really sad to see...



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Doesn't really matter what he "wants" now does it? There may be some backwards states where cheating gets you nothing but doubtful NY is one of them. They don't and won't care why their divorcing.

Your dad has the potential to lose much more than half. Future earnings, retirement funds are all up for grabs when people who've been married for a long time get divorced. Sounds like your mom doesn't make anywhere near what your dad makes so he'll be on the hook for alimony. My guess is a boat load of it.

Your dad needs to find the best lawyer he can afford. Whenever he has an issue or question he should see the lawyer. When it's time to go to court he'll at least be ready. Guys tend to screw themselves long before they ever get to court. Sounds like your dad has decided to do the same thing.

Another way to look at it: Even with 100% of his money he's probably miserable and stressed about this anyway. He'll be much happier with only 50% of the money and no crappy wife.