Does this guy deserve a beatdown?

[LeatherFace]

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Send an anonymous letter with a death threat. Add a really nasty picture which is untraceable.

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like goatse

[Klompy]

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In all seriousness, you need to do 2 things:

a) call police

b) have serious talk with kid

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Calling the police is dumb, I don't know why everyone on this forum always thinks this is such a great option. If you call the police you're going to be telling them that your daughter had pot/X on her which isn't a great idea. If you call the police and give an anonymous tip about a drug dealer you're a hypocrite if you don't also rat out your daughter.

[SmackinYaUp]

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[jaffa]

Organise an elaborate sting where he goes to deal some drugs etc etc with your daughter, and then at the crucial moment get a tv presenter and some cameramen to come out of the cupboards and watch the expression on his face.

[SparkyDog]

Sounds like you live in a small town, given that you know the 21 year old.

I'd also wager that the 21 year old didn't approach or incite them to buy these drugs, more likely he just did it as a favor to his little cousin that wanted to score some weed. So, being it a small town and all, call the police if you think they can do a better job of parenting than you, because the only thing they're going to do is screw with your daughter whenever they have an opprotunity. Bringing them into this situation will do absolutely nothing good. It's not like they're gonna make a case out some guy giving his younger cousin drugs.

and "what he says is ecstasy" ; I wouldn't worry too much about your daughter's friends cousin slipping them something other than what he says it is. I mean, what's the incentive? They could be cut with other things, but it won't be terrible since I'm sure he doesn't just have 8 random ass E pills sitting around that he hasn't tried it yet.

But I'd be way more concerned about the E. 14 is really young for such a powerful drug. just tell her not to [censored] with the hard(ish) stuff until she knows what she's doing, which she obviously doesn't since she got caught.

Oh, and have a nice honest talk with her about sex if you haven't already, and look into safe birth control methods for teenagers. I'm not sure about the pill, sometimes it seems to cause pretty severe mood swings.

Another thing to think about is if this is just adolescent experimentation and boundary testing, or if this is symptomatic of some deeper running issues. i'd guess the best way to do this would be just talk to her, but you know your daughter better than i.

[SparkyDog]

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Where did you guys all grow up? Where I come from its pretty common for 14 year olds (esp 14 year old girls) to have easy access to pot and 21 year old lovins

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no [censored]. i come from a rural bible thumper area and i remember helping older kids break up their weed and deseed it and [censored] on the back of the bus in 6th grade.

[Hey_Porter]

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If you call the police and give an anonymous tip about a drug dealer you're a hypocrite if you don't also rat out your daughter.

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You don't see a difference between a problem and the source of the problem? Don't get me wrong, I don't think anything is going to stop 14 year olds from getting pot, but to say it is hypocritical to want to bust the dealer and not the buyer just doesn't make sense.

[schundler]

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Talk to your daughter. Kicking the [censored] out of this guy isn't going to do anything.

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Not if you do it right.

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[Boris]

You're daughter will probably shut you out if you go to the cops plus it will create many hassles and social problems for her.

I wouldn't be to concerned about the weed smoking as long as she maintains academically. I would have a serious talk with her concerning X and what it does to your body and what people do when they are on X. You might want to put her on the Pill cuz the last thing you need is her getting pregnant and going through the nightmare of an abortion. Sounds heavy I know but that is reality.

You probably don't have to physically assault the dealer. If you approach him in person and let him know that you know what he's up to and to stay the [censored] away from his daughter, he will probably stay away.

[Requin]

Call the guy and tell him that while you don't care that he deals drugs, if he ever sells to your daughter or her friends again you will call the cops.