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#81
11-19-2007, 12:37 PM
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Re: Do you want to have children?
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[ QUOTE ] kids i know i want 100% a wife, i'm not so sure. [/ QUOTE ] I had to laugh at this. While neither my wife nor I have ever regretted having kids, I can assure you we've both had moments of regretting we ever got married. [img]/images/graemlins/laugh.gif[/img] I think that's pretty par for the course in marriage. [/ QUOTE ] haha, qft. and lol @ some of the responses in this thread. 'kids are like a MLM - huge effort for incremental returns'??? lol. 
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#82
11-19-2007, 12:40 PM
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Re: Do you want to have children?
the ppl who say that kids are huge investments for little return and ppl who don't like kids usually need to take a look at their own childhoods and parents and see what went wrong..
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#83
11-19-2007, 12:58 PM
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Re: Do you want to have children?
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the ppl who say that kids are huge investments for little return and ppl who don't like kids usually need to take a look at their own childhoods and parents and see what went wrong.. [/ QUOTE ] This is exactly the mentality I find funny. I would never try to convince someone they shouldn't have children but parents seem to think people who don't want children are defective. I have nothing against children. I actually volunteer at a spelling bee which has me coaching young children. The reason I don't want children is because I value my social life more than I value having children. I love my life. If I had children my life would be boring. I tried doing the whole domestic thing for two weeks and I was so miserable that if I had to wake up to that for 16-17 years I rather just jump in front of a bus and get it over with.
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#84
11-19-2007, 01:02 PM
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This is exactly the mentality I find funny. I would never try to convince someone they shouldn't have children but parents seem to think people who don't want children are defective. [/ QUOTE ] I don't feel that way at all. Certainly there people that don't want kids - duh it's your life, do what makes you happy. My kids are a significant part of my happiness.
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#85
11-19-2007, 01:06 PM
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Re: Do you want to have children?
Henry17, how old are you?
I'm 24 and hate kids. Terrified at the thought of having one. I wonder when this will change.
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#86
11-19-2007, 01:08 PM
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Re: Do you want to have children?
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[ QUOTE ] kids i know i want 100% a wife, i'm not so sure. [/ QUOTE ] I had to laugh at this. While neither my wife nor I have ever regretted having kids, I can assure you we've both had moments of regretting we ever got married. [img]/images/graemlins/laugh.gif[/img] I think that's pretty par for the course in marriage. [/ QUOTE ] i know that there are ups and downs during all marriages, but i don't really see a point in getting married unless it is to raise children together.
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#87
11-19-2007, 01:08 PM
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but parents seem to think people who don't want children are defective. [/ QUOTE ] I don't think this way at all. It's your choice. I just hope you don't wake up some day 30 years from now, when it's too late, and regret your choice. That's something I don't have to worry about. [ QUOTE ] I tried doing the whole domestic thing for two weeks and I was so miserable that if I had to wake up to that for 16-17 years I rather just jump in front of a bus and get it over with. [/ QUOTE ] But these weren't your kids. You can't possibly understand it unless they are. This little two-week "trial period" just doesn't compute. But hey, to each his own. You'll have your answer in 30 years or so.
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#88
11-19-2007, 01:09 PM
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While neither my wife nor I have ever regretted having kids [/ QUOTE ] See, I want to have kids, but statements like this actually make me think about changing my mind. First of all, I find it hard to believe that someone would never question a decision that big. And second, if having kids really does [censored] with your mind so much that you can't even longingly consider what might have been, then maybe I don't want them after all. Does this make sense to anyone? Even though I'm a children person, I'm on Henry's side in this thread, in the sense of I think the social stigmas about this stuff are 99% ridiculous. edit: I'm 20, since everyone is giving ages in this thread and since it seems to matter
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#89
11-19-2007, 01:14 PM
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I'm 24 and hate kids. Terrified at the thought of having one. I wonder when this will change. [/ QUOTE ] The day you find out you're pregnant, at least the hate part. The terrified part takes a little longer to get over -- like when they turn 1 and you finally realize they don't break as easily as you thought. [img]/images/graemlins/cool.gif[/img]
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#90
11-19-2007, 01:27 PM
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Henry17, how old are you? [/ QUOTE ] I'm 34 [ QUOTE ] I don't think this way at all. It's your choice. I just hope you don't wake up some day 30 years from now, when it's too late, and regret your choice. That's something I don't have to worry about. [/ QUOTE ] I know I won't regret it. I was always a maybe on the children aspect. Then I dated a girl that had a child. Then I started to have friends who have children. I've seen the impact having children has on someone's life and for me it is not worth it. I don't want pets, plants or a job for the same reasons. [ QUOTE ] See, I want to have kids, but statements like this actually make me think about changing my mind. First of all, I find it hard to believe that someone would never question a decision that big. [/ QUOTE ] It almost seems like talking to people who have been initiated into a cult. My general thought process when I hear a friend is having a child is "ok his life is over" but I never would consider saying it or letting them know that is what I thought.
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