Etiquette and the girl

[Low Key]

Rainonacongadrum's thread reminds me of a situation I'm in. I know this girl. We've been lightly seeing each other lately. My birthday was a few months ago and I invited her over for dinner and a movie. We got tipsy on wine and cuddled a little. Good times.

I tried last week a few times to hang out with her, but I have horrible timing and it just didn't happen. Now, her birthday is almost here. I haven't heard from her. I'm starting to wonder what's up.

Etiquette-wise, as the man, am I supposed to initiate contact regarding her birthday and getting together, or should I wait to see if she tries to contact me? (Obviously, if I hear nothing by the actual day, I'd call her regardless)

My problem is, I hate the idea of feeling like I'm imposing on her. It's her birthday, she's free to do whatever she wants, obviously.

So, aside from taking her to a concert while wearing a tux and bringing a tennis ball, what should I do here?

[MrWookie]

You're not going to get anywhere unless you call her. However, you're probably not going to get anywhere even if you do.

[slickpoppa]

You invited her on a date on your birthday? Bad move, and it's not like you even got far with her either. Sorry, but it sounds like you don't what you're doing, and there's a good chance this chick has thrown you in the friend zone. Don't suggest hanging out with any chick on her or your birthday unless you are officially boyfriend or girlfriend. It just screams loser.

[Georgia Avenue]

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You are ignoring this user

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[gobbomom]

call her the day before, say HAPPY BIRTHDAY! When she says it's tomorrow dummy, you say oops! ha-ha.

Balls in her court then.

[schaef]

She's not interested. Send her a card... or don't.

[ncboiler]

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You're not going to get anywhere unless you call her. However, you're probably not going to get anywhere even if you do.

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This thread need go no farther. OP, this is your answer.

[MVPaul]

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call her the day before, say HAPPY BIRTHDAY! When she says it's tomorrow dummy, you say oops! ha-ha.

Balls in her court then.

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winner.

[aladare]

Noone should be dissed on their b-day!! It's a big party for the person so the world is invited to share in their joy, a 'the more the merrier' kind of idea..SO call her, you look like a good guy even tho she'll probably already be going out w/her friends..BUT you will gain points in her book AND if you say (after she says she's busy), "well gimme a hollar when you wanna hang out for your birthday", then you won't feel like you're bugging her. Actually say "I've been really busy lately, so i'm probably late on asking you, if you have plans for your birthday? B/c i'd like to take you out" Yes. "Awesome, sounds fun! Ok so gimme a hollar when you get time & wanna hang out for your birthday" Pretty much full proof NO rejection or awkwardness - she will not thing anything bad of you unless she's a biatch. GL [img]/images/graemlins/smile.gif[/img]

-ala

[traz]

Sounds like you've already called her a couple times. Next