Issues with Parents

[WhoIam]

[ QUOTE ]
And people wonder why I got the hell out of Pittsburgh...

There's definitely a culture of staying with your parents well after you should have moved the hell out.

[/ QUOTE ] Unless something has changed in the past year, Pittsburgh has one of the lowest costs of living of major US cities, so you don't have much of an excuse for not moving out.

[Mike Cuneo]

To everyone calling me pathetic, loser, etc.: You're probably right, I come off as pathetic in this thread, and I have been for the past few years. Being broke and not in school I have no one to blame but myself. I DO NOT BLAME ANYONE ELSE FOR MY SITUATION.

However, that wasn't really the point of this thread. I should have worded it differently. By next year, probably the late spring/early summer at the latest, I will be moved out and on my own and working and supporting myself. I just wanted advice about what to do after that happens, when I get the feeling that I don't ever want to see or talk to my parents ever again.

Basically I hate my parents, and have felt this way since I was about 15. This really doesn't have a lot to do with getting out on my own, which I plan on doing as soon as I can.

I can see where you call me pathetic and a loser and yeah it probably is true, but I'm working to change it. Maybe I needed to post this and hear it from other people to help spur change.

[kkcountry]

op,

how do you go about getting laid these days?

[sonneti]

Sounds like me when I was 18 [img]/images/graemlins/laugh.gif[/img]

Seriously though move out as soon as you can...

[DontRaiseMeBro]

personal freedom... join the board and post your questions/feelings there...

[DarkForceRising]

When the time comes that you can afford it, you should probably talk to a therapist. He or she will help put things in perspective for you. Parent issues can really mess you up, and their negative influence can lead to a lifetime of self-defeating behavior.

If indeed your mom and dad really dropped the ball, you should seek the appropriate help so as to avoid living a life that you don't like, simply to gain their approval. Also, you shouldn't have to harbor guilt when do you seek your own path.

The teen and early twenty years are obviously strained between kids and their folks, but just because they are your parents doesn't necessarily make them right. And just because somebody else's dad smacked the [censored] out of them when they were young, it is not OK that your parents shirked their duties.