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02-16-2007, 11:20 PM
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Sex advice needed: trouble performing with new partner
Ok, first off yes this is a gimmick account as I definitely need to maintain some privacy on this issue, but I am by no means a 2p2 "regular" (my other account has 100>1000 posts). Also, I know this thread is useless without pics, and I would post some if I had some, but I don't yet. If I get some in the near future, I will post them.
Also, I will state now that I am currently in a committed relationship (not married), and I don't have any problem with seeing other people outside of it. So you can chew me out for that if you like, but I am more in need help in the physical department. So last weekend I am at a friend's party and I meet this smoking hot 40 something who is there with her husband. Her husband leaves and she stays at the party. As the night progresses, I am getting more and more drunk and she keeps pouring me shots (and I find out she dosen't drink). I am getting ready to leave and she offers me a ride home. I accept, and the whole way home she is all over me and is putting my hand all sorts of places. She is ready to go anywhere and go at it, but a minute later I open the car door and puke and we both realize I am way to drunk to properly function in that way. Fast forward to this week, she calls me and wants to meet up, and I agree. We end up going to her office of all places (at like 11 p.m.), and they have a nice client lounge area where we proceed to get things started (kissing, groping, etc). At this point I am feeling good, but not yet completely "at attention". I proceed to finger her and get her off, but I am unable to get aroused. She then proceeds to try and return the favor in any way she can, but my mind is racing and I am worse than being in the pool. I ask her to give me a minute so I can try and get myself going, but even then I can't concentrate and am forced to concede defeat for the evening. She is understanding (I don't know if I would be), and says I will get a few more chances next week. So I am now desperate for any type of advice as to why I am having this problem, and what I can do about it. And it is even more important to me because this cougar is talking all sorts of nasty stuff to me that I haven't done before and would never even come close to in my current relationship (SIIHP, facial, deep throating, the works!). I have had exactly 3 other "hook ups" with other people while in my current relationship and ran into the same problem in 2 of them. But I was very drunk in both of those cases so I attributed it to the alcohol, but I guess I was wrong. (I was sober in this most recent case). I'm desperate OOT, I want to seal this deal more than anything and I know you guys can come up with something for me. I'll even ship $10 on stars to anyone with advice that actually works (I will find out when I meet up with her next week). 
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02-16-2007, 11:26 PM
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Re: Sex advice needed: trouble performing with new partner
Break up with current girlfriend/wife
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02-16-2007, 11:40 PM
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Re: Sex advice needed: trouble performing with new partner
don't listen to these nerds.
you're just too worried. i had pretty much the exact same experience when i lost my virginity, and again when i was with a girl i had just met who i could tell i was basically in love with ( dated for over a year, she sucked ). i'm assuming you can get off just fine with your wife/girlfriend, so that is proof that you don't have a physical problem. honestly what worked for me in the 2 situations i explained, was to explain my problem to the girl and let her know that it wasn't her fault, but that i might need to get myself going before i could get it in her. both understood, i jerked off while kissing them for a couple minutes, got it in them and just went from there. really once you get it in and start working it, that's all you need to know. so yeah i don't know if that helps, but my advice is to get a boner by any means necessary during the course of events.
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02-17-2007, 01:03 AM
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Re: Sex advice needed: trouble performing with new partner
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don't listen to these nerds. you're just too worried. i had pretty much the exact same experience when i lost my virginity, and again when i was with a girl i had just met who i could tell i was basically in love with ( dated for over a year, she sucked ). i'm assuming you can get off just fine with your wife/girlfriend, so that is proof that you don't have a physical problem. honestly what worked for me in the 2 situations i explained, was to explain my problem to the girl and let her know that it wasn't her fault, but that i might need to get myself going before i could get it in her. both understood, i jerked off while kissing them for a couple minutes, got it in them and just went from there. really once you get it in and start working it, that's all you need to know. so yeah i don't know if that helps, but my advice is to get a boner by any means necessary during the course of events. [/ QUOTE ] Good advice, i agree that if you don't have problems with your current girl but new girls you do then it seems like a mental thing. Maybe you aren't comfortable, maybe you feel guilty ect... I've had this happen, i realized i wasn't cut out for cheating on a gf i actually liked/respected. Doing it in some random spot and such, places you wouldn't typically do it with your gf probably isn't helping. Try a hotel room...
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