serious post: My really good friends brother just commited suicide

[xxThe_Lebowskixx]

I think having to listen to a million people tell you "Im so sorry" would be exhausting.

[Vyse]

If she's a really good friend, why would you need advice on this...

[cardsharkk04]

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I think having to listen to a million people tell you "Im so sorry" would be exhausting.

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Yea I'm pretty sure everyone knows it sucks. But this is the first time something like this has happened to me so I figured some advice from people with similar experiences would be good. Thanks for your help.

[cardsharkk04]

Well this may be a bad post, whatever. I just felt like getting it off my chest. Time to sleep it off. Any more ass hole comments are appreciated.

[ElliotR]

My goodness, that is horrible. The "be there" advice is really all that can be said. There are many possible reactions to sudden deaths in general from rage to despair to self-destruction, so there cannot be any pat answer for you or for her. Just support her through this as you would through any other enormous tragedy.

[EWS87]

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Yea I'm pretty sure everyone knows it sucks. But this is the first time something like this has happened to me so I figured some advice from people with similar experiences would be good. Thanks for your help.

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i kinda dont understand how anything happened to you here...ive been in your situation once (not exactly because the girl whose brother killed himself wasnt as close to me as this girl seems to you) but I kinda just let her grieve alone for a while with family...then tried to be there to get things back to normal...weve never talked about it to this day

[Kimbell175113]

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I think having to listen to a million people tell you "Im so sorry" would be exhausting.

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It is.

OP,
please pay attention to MLG's and FFK's posts, they are very good. Don't avoid the situation; honestly, it won't even matter if you do or say something dumb as long as she can tell your heart's in the right place and you're trying to help. If you really are that good of friends, just do what you've always done/what she would do for you.

[mondo]

OP,

My sister went through this with one of her closest friends several years ago, mlg and ffk are correct. Make the effort to be involved in your friend's life, and be willing to LISTEN. She knows you don't have the answers, but a compassionate friend who takes the time to be there in an obvious time of need is greatly appreciated.

I am sorry for her loss. I wish you the best in trying circumstances. Friends, true friends, are the best coping mechanism during times of hardship.

Condolences, mondo