Girlfriends going to parties without you - advice?

marsvolta619 · #1 05-20-2006, 04:12 AM

So, I'm in the "not cool with it" crowd. My girlfriend is currently at a party, to which she made no gesture of invitation towards me, and she didn't ask if it was ok or not for her to go to it. She just gave me the old "i think i'm going to a party tonight" line. I asked her how much she's drank when she called me and she said only one drink, which girl math = about 3 drinks.

Anyways, my question is, what's your play in situations like these, and is anyone really ok with this phenomena? We're in a close and committed relationship btw

traz · #2 05-20-2006, 04:13 AM

no, if my gf goes to parties without me, and without inviting me, then we have issues. That is NOT alright with me

shag · #3 05-20-2006, 04:13 AM

um... talk to her about it. or dump her asss

wpr101 · #4 05-20-2006, 04:38 AM

That sounds pretty shady she wouldn't invite you. You may want to nicely ask about it. It is obviously bothering you and it should.

PokerBob · #5 05-20-2006, 04:40 AM

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then start acting like it and let her go.

goofball · #6 05-20-2006, 04:44 AM

she should take you into consideration. She should either invite you or explainwhy you aren't invited and if that's ok.

diebitter · #7 05-20-2006, 04:45 AM

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she should take you into consideration. She should either invite you or explainwhy you aren't invited and if that's ok.

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The right answer.

dustybottoms · #8 05-20-2006, 04:45 AM

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then she should start acting like it and invite him to go.

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Ali shmali · #9 05-20-2006, 05:05 PM

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then start acting like it and let her go.

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Some people have made some good responses here. If you and your GF live together there is protocol to follow. Out of respect I would tell my bf(we live together) that I'm going out with so and so to a kegger or to a bar to have some drinks. "I should be back in a few hours" "do you need me to do anything before I go?" "want me to bring you some jack in the box on the way home" is what I say when I want to have some seperation. It is completely healthy to want that. Ya when I'm at the bars I will flirt with guys, they flirt back. Some ask me "where my man's at?!"(btw that is such a stupid thing to say when you want a girls attention, or HOLLA!) It is normal for women to want that attention. Trust me. If you are in a "CLOSE AND COMMITED" relationship there is nothing to worry about. The problem is that "close and commited" is a cliche that is thrown around way too lightly. I think you are probably not "close" if you are worried about her being social with out you. YOu should talk to her about how you feel. Don't be an ass when you do. Don't be possesive when you do. If you are this way when you bring it up, expect your relationship to go down hill if it isn't going there already. I would suggest writing down what you want to say while you are calm and rationale and reading off this when you talk to her. Guys with jealousy issues can be way too passionate to not act like freakin morons when it comes time to address these topics.

ColdCaller · #10 05-20-2006, 04:45 AM

You are an insecure [censored].