d10 makes a thread about a girl

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This is probably tl;dr, so cliff notes are in parenthesis preceding each paragraph, although you'll have to read it all for the subtle details.

(This first paragraph has little relevance with my situation, skip if you want) Sorry guys I know how much we all hate these, and I feel pretty lame for posting it. Although I hate to admit it, I've learned a lot from these types of threads that others have posted, so hopefully I won't be the only one who benefits from this one. Ironically, although I think it's safe to say the % of social retards is much higher in this forum than average, I trust this forum more than any other on the subject. I'll offer one picture of the girl in question, along with my request for no trainwrecks please, as a thanks in advance.


Girl on right, she likes editing photos in MSPaint, so she's obviously cool as well as pretty hot.

Background info:

(Started talking a week ago, things go well, get a date on Saturday) Anyways I started talking to this girl about a week ago. We hit it off really well and she's clearly interested, she made it clear quite a few times that she wanted to get together, so we set up a date for Saturday. She asked me to also come see her at some bar or restaurant or something (don't really know where it was) last Tuesday but it was short notice and I wasn't really comfortable with the idea so I passed on that.

(Saturday: Get dinner, go to my place for drinks/watching FOTC, sexy time, talk for about an hour or two) So I just wait for Saturday, we were going to go out to drink but those plans didn't work out, she suggested drinking at my place instead, which is ok with me. She was going to come over around 6 so I suggested we get dinner first. So we meet up for dinner, have good conversation, then come back to my place. She is a Flight of the Conchords fan, but hadn't seen the TV show at all, I guess just live performances? Fortunately I had the whole season so far recorded so we start going through those and drinking. We ran through all 6 episodes and then I make a move on her and get her into bed. We spent an hour or two afterwards just hanging out/talking/having a good time. She said she was doing something with a friend tomorrow (Sunday) but she could cancel, but I don't push her to cause I don't want to look like I'm trying to spend all day every day with her, I was just planning on calling her some time next week to get another date. Not even really planning on talking to her on Sunday. By the way, no she had no intentions of spending the night, but I'm not sure if anything can be read into that, she lives with her parents and she had to be home before they woke up.

(Sunday: She emails me saying she had a great time and implying another date, things are good) So pretty much as soon as she leaves (which is now technically early Sunday morning) she emails me this: "Thanks for not killing me! I guess you are waiting till like the third date or something huh? Very romantic! I had a good time though, you are good company. =)" The killing thing was a joke we had about meeting random people from the internet. So I end up writing back, we exchange a couple pointless messages, things are good.

(Monday: She starts acting flaky) We had talked about watching FOTC ep 7 at some point, but since she said she had plans with someone on Sunday I never pushed to watch it live. I DVR it and text msg her Monday afternoon telling her to come over to see it that night. She said her best female friend is in town so she cant, asks about tomorrow (Tuesday). I was expecting to work late, but she said she can stay out until 2am so I say sure, we can do it at like 11pm. She writes back and says she might not be able to make it cause her friend usually stays over for more than one night but she might stay with her bf on tuesday night so maybe. It sounded like BS so I just told her to msg me when she found out, otherwise I'll catch her some other time. Somehow I didn't expect to get a message by tonight and I didn't ever get one.

(Tuesday: Find out she started seeing another guy about a week before she had seen me, saw him again on sunday night) So on Tuesday I find out she's been seeing another guy. Started seeing him about a week before she saw me, got together at least 2-3 times during the last week for Starbucks/watching movies/general hanging out. Turns out this was the same guy she was seeing on Sunday.

My thoughts:

I'm not upset about the other guy, maybe a little bit of jealously, but I wouldn't expect her to tell me about him. And I don't think there's anything wrong with seeing two guys if she's not in a relationship with either one. I understand it's not my business, although if she's getting serious with him I'd like to know so I'm not wasting my time. By Sunday afternoon it was clearly not very serious between them, but I don't know what happened on Sunday night, and I'm assuming that's the reason she got flaky yesterday. But I had a good time with this girl, she also had a good time, and I'd like to get another date with her. Unless this guy is absolutely amazing, I think she would prefer dating me over him (not trying to be cocky, just that this girl has one of those weird personalities that normal people don't appreciate, but I seem to handle well. Not to mention she was considering canceling with him on Sunday to see me instead.). I think I may be a couple days too late though. FWIW, I would be interested in a serious relationship with this girl, not just a booty call.

My questions

So, OOT, what's the play here? Keeping in mind I talked to her a little bit on Monday and was getting bad vibes, didn't talk to her at all today, when should I make my next play? Text/email/call? I'm not 100% sure that she would answer a phone call at this point. Do I let her know that I know about the other guy? Or should I let her know I know there's another guy involved but maybe I don't know the specifics that I do? Yeah, these are the main questions I'm trying to figure out. Any other advice also appreciated.