dating girl w/ kid issues

[krazyace5]

Don't get serious with women with kids.

[Stuey]

Good luck [censored] I got nothing to say that could help. Ask your mom what you were like when you were 3. I would like to know. I still don't listen or do as I am told. [img]/images/graemlins/smile.gif[/img]

Keep in mind it's tough on single moms. I am not supporting what she does - she should be disciplining her kid better. But part of the problem is systemic.

If Dad's in the picture once a week then maybe he does the zoo, movie, mall, MacDonald's thing with the kid and then drops the kid back with mom. If that's the case, then Dad is "superman" who drops in once a week, and mom is left to be "bad cop". I've seen this all too often, where mom doesn't want to be the bad cop , so she gives in and pretty soon you have super-brat as a kid.

Based on the above, you can see where you might fit in if you start to be part of the solution. Anyway, the advice that was given that says talk it out with Mom and go from there is good.

The questions is: Do you like/love her enough to get into very tough, complex relationship, and also play a key (but awkward) role in raising a child?

Only you can answer that.

Good luck, whatever you decide.

[Alobar]

watching a 3 year old walk all over their parent would be such a huge turn off, id prolly lose any attraction I had for her. If shes that spineless with her own kid, I can only imagine what other areas of life she fails at as well.

I guess give it a little bit and if you cant deal with it, then give her the axe.

[dogdrool]

This sounds like a horrible situation to me.

[miajag]

Kid born at 20 + no longer with father + no discipline = white trash

[DizzyDotty]

I am in a long term relationship similar to yours. For the last 4 years I have been living with a man who has 2 kids, currently ages 5 and 6. I don't have any children of my own. When I met him and he wanted to introduce me to the kids I told him I had firm ideas on parenting and he was ok with all that. Turns out he's not such a good parent and I am. The mother is local and gets them on the weekends but when they're with us, I'm the one who makes and enforces the rules. I'm also the one who drives them to and from school, supervises homework, cooks, cleans and basically hangs out with them all the time. I potty trained them, taught them how to speak proper english, ride bikes, play baseball, write and the list goes on. My official title is nanny slave. It's A LOT of work.

Being completely honest from day one is the best policy. I'm guessing chicks in that situation act differently than guys in that situation (single parent), but there are ways of saying things that could express the point without making her feel like a piece of crap mother. For me it has worked out very well. I definitely love the kids more than I like their father [img]/images/graemlins/wink.gif[/img]

On a side note, it has been my stated policy to not date guys with kids and I definitely recommend that to everyone I know even if I didn't heed my own advice.

[tboss888]

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Dump her quick! Unless she looks something like this:



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Jesus Christ that girl is hot. Name?

[TimM]

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women don't like to get advice on how they are doing things wrong. If you tell her this now, you will have no chance. I'd wait quite awhile

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Agreed. She will definitely resent it if you try to fix her life in any way.

[34TheTruth34]

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Whatever happened to beating a kid's ass with a belt?

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hey, I didn't know my dad posted on 2+2...