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11-24-2007, 04:33 PM
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GF invites me to wake, whats my line?
So her grandfather died after alot of hospitalizations, and she definatley saw it coming and so did her family but she isn't taking it well. I have to drive awhile and meet her family, which i've never done, and I really don't want to go. We aren't very serious. Is it -ev to just say "I don't want to go." and be honest?
I don't think lying is a good line... and I wouldn't expect her to attend a wake for my family and I doubt I would even invite her unless she knew the family member. need help =-0 
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11-24-2007, 05:04 PM
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Re: GF invites me to wake, whats my line?
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Does she want you to go or is she making you feel like you have to go? Have you talked to her about it at all? [/ QUOTE ] She is making me feel like I have to go, and she knows I have some plans for tomorrow. She gave me 1 day notice (its tomorrow). She told me to call her back because she had to go, we didn't finish talking about it
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11-24-2007, 06:35 PM
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Re: GF invites me to wake, whats my line?
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[ QUOTE ] Does she want you to go or is she making you feel like you have to go? Have you talked to her about it at all? [/ QUOTE ] She is making me feel like I have to go, and she knows I have some plans for tomorrow. She gave me 1 day notice (its tomorrow). [/ QUOTE ] Yes, people don't die with notice, so wakes have very short notice. You just have to drop your plans and go when it happens and not bitch about not having enough notice.
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#7
11-25-2007, 09:40 AM
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Re: GF invites me to wake, whats my line?
She views you as her emotional support. Whether or not you see it that way doesn't matter. She isn't testing you. Life is testing you. Given the choice, are you a decent human being? Why would you add to her trauma?
It has nothing to do with your future plans for the relationship. You are in one with her now and she has a completely legit need for your support. Don't tell her what a sacrfice your making. Don't trivialize her pain. Just because they knew he was going to die doesnt mean it doesnt hurt. Just suck it up and go.
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#8
11-25-2007, 03:20 PM
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Re: GF invites me to wake, whats my line?
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She gave me 1 day notice (its tomorrow). She told me to call her back because she had to go, we didn't finish talking about it [/ QUOTE ] This is a terrible breach of etiquette by the deceased. Save the Date cards should be sent at least eight weeks in advance of a wake. One should retain a suicide doctor if necessary for scheduling purposes. OP, I suggest you break up with your gf so she can find someone who's not a douchebag.
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11-25-2007, 06:41 PM
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Re: GF invites me to wake, whats my line?
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[ QUOTE ] She gave me 1 day notice (its tomorrow). She told me to call her back because she had to go, we didn't finish talking about it [/ QUOTE ] This is a terrible breach of etiquette by the deceased. Save the Date cards should be sent at least eight weeks in advance of a wake. One should retain a suicide doctor if necessary for scheduling purposes. OP, I suggest you break up with your gf so she can find someone who's not a douchebag. [/ QUOTE ] I think I sense a little sarcasm in this post. Personally, this issue to me has nothing to do with the grandfather. It has to do with going to a wake, which ive never been to, to meet alot of people who I have never met and feel sad. Maybe I am an [censored] and insensitive, but I don't think I am.
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#10
11-24-2007, 05:04 PM
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Re: GF invites me to wake, whats my line?
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Does she want you to go or is she making you feel like you have to go? Have you talked to her about it at all? [/ QUOTE ] clearly that comes after asking 2+2....
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