I need advice on achieving my goals wrt sexual intercourse

[Toe-Knee]

Have you ever heard of social anxiety disorder? I've just recently been diagnosed, and am improving my socializing soooo much. Google it if ya want, just a thought.

[Guyon]

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Have you ever heard of social anxiety disorder? I've just recently been diagnosed, and am improving my socializing soooo much. Google it if ya want, just a thought.

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Good to hear...Out of curiousity, how have you made such improvements?

Also, isn't Xanax indicated in social AD?

[Toe-Knee]

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Have you ever heard of social anxiety disorder? I've just recently been diagnosed, and am improving my socializing soooo much. Google it if ya want, just a thought.

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Good to hear...Out of curiosity, how have you made such improvements?

Also, isn't Xanax indicated in social AD?

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I exaggerated a bit, I've still got a lot of work to do. What I did though, is I finally got the balls to go to the counseling center on campus, and they referred me to an on campus psych. I've gone through some CBT (Cognitive-behavioral therapy), and so far it has really started to help. Also I've been reading up some self help stuff that has also helped somewhat.

Yeah I think xanax can be used. From what I've read the most effective meds for SA are MAOIs, which I'm kinda scared to take. I've heard good things about kava though, and I might give that a shot.

I got a lot of info here-> Socialfear.com

[Claunchy]

I would just like to point out how funny it is that a seemingly intelligent person could stumble upon these boards (which have thousands of dollars of information within them) and complain about being broke.

POKER. LEARN IT. PROFIT.

[Guyon]

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Have you ever heard of social anxiety disorder? I've just recently been diagnosed, and am improving my socializing soooo much. Google it if ya want, just a thought.

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Good to hear...Out of curiosity, how have you made such improvements?

Also, isn't Xanax indicated in social AD?

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I exaggerated a bit, I've still got a lot of work to do. What I did though, is I finally got the balls to go to the counseling center on campus, and they referred me to an on campus psych. I've gone through some CBT (Cognitive-behavioral therapy), and so far it has really started to help. Also I've been reading up some self help stuff that has also helped somewhat.

Yeah I think xanax can be used. From what I've read the most effective meds for SA are MAOIs, which I'm kinda scared to take. I've heard good things about kava though, and I might give that a shot.

I got a lot of info here-> Socialfear.com

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SSRI's are the rave now, (Paxil specifically for what you describe). I'd give that a shot before Kava or MAOI's...I took it for a couple months after I had an issue with panic attacks, social anxiety, and death grieving. I was outgoing to begin with, but this helped me get through it.
CBT has also quite helpful at keeping panic attacks in check. Basically, recognizing the symptoms as they are increasing, breathing, and saying "Dude, chill the [censored] out."

Also, I find that taking Xanax 0.5 or 1 mg before big speeches or events that you know will trigger anxiety or reclusiveness can be extremely helpful. Of course, doctors are reluctant to prescribe this freely because of its addictive and tolerance-building properties (Big downside).

[hmkpoker]

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SSRI's are the rave now, (Paxil specifically for what you describe). I'd give that a shot before Kava or MAOI's...I took it for a couple months after I had an issue with panic attacks, social anxiety, and death grieving. I was outgoing to begin with, but this helped me get through it.
CBT has also quite helpful at keeping panic attacks in check. Basically, recognizing the symptoms as they are increasing, breathing, and saying "Dude, chill the [censored] out."

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DO NOT TAKE PAXIL. You will not be able to orgasm, and will probably have trouble maintaining an erection. SSRI use kills your dopamine levels, and that's the last thing you need.

There's only one drug you should be using: good ol' mary jane. Go buy an ounce of good stuff. Now, not only do you have pot, but you are also that cool guy with good pot. Everyone, guys and girls, loves that guy with pot. Have a nice room to chill in. You can invite people over to come and smoke a joint and chill. Your new social connections will win you friends, and will attract stoner chicks (which is EXACTLY what you want, since they're unmotivated, laid back, horny, and reasonably easy to put up with. And they like pot!)

[Rick Nebiolo]

I found my way over here because this thread was linked to from "The Lounge". I don't want modern college youth to think a creepy 52 year old man is hanging out in the hallways. [img]/images/graemlins/smile.gif[/img]

A while back Bruiser brought up a similar topic. In perhaps his and a few other threads I believe I mentioned the importance of reading serious modern fiction that is written by woman. That's one way to get into their heads, and see their view of men through their eyes.

Eventually you are going to become more comfortable with and more attractive to women, and when you do it's great if you learn to be good in bed. You'll probably never get there listening to advice from men/guys/boys. And you might be surprised to find out that a guy who is essentially starting out as a bit of a geek can be (and probably will be) better than a rock star in bed if he takes the time to learn. The fact is most men are delusional regarding their sexual abilities. But you are starting from the right point and can avoid these delusions.

In the mid seventies Shere Hite wrote the "Hite Report". I was a semi-nerd/geek who a few years earlier had been rejected in my quest for a prom date. A few years after reading Hite I married a prom queen (and I was broke). What I learned in the Hite Report (along with reading the aforementioned fiction) changed my life, at least in how it relates to women.

Anyway, in this thread I wrote two posts on Hite. I also wrote at least two posts in this thread. I think this was my last comment on Hite. In case I missed a link, you might want to search on my username and +Hite +Report. Of course many others in these threads had comments you might find helpful too.

Cliff notes version: The Hite Report may be thirty years old, but I believe a lot of what it has to say rings true today. After all, clitoris don't change much over time (that is until you learn how to touch and lick them just right). [img]/images/graemlins/grin.gif[/img]

~ Rick

[cambraceres]

Learn to relax, that really will help you. Problem is, to be relaxed, you have to be comfortable, which implies either confidence or being at home. Just go out with your guy friends, or make some first. That part is easy, then disregard everything they say about women. Talk to girls who appear self conscious, always be authoritative.

And don't seem nice, even though you obviously are.

Cam

[Suigin406]

madnak, i used to pretty much be like u when college started...make some changes and adjust...styling ur hair and being funny are very nice ideas...i think someone here hit right on the head about getting friends as u need to get comfortable around people first before u move on...also, have a disarming, laid back attitude, though i think u already have this...just keep at it and u'll come through nicely...good luck...

[mattmcegg]

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Talk to girls who appear self conscious, always be authoritative.

And don't seem nice, even though you obviously are.

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Bad advice.

Dont BE anything. Just be and [censored] everyone who doesnt like it. Seriously, just consciously tell yourself that. There are people that will spend time with you, and believe it or not, have sex with you. Sex really isnt that big of a deal like everyone raves. Yea, its awesome, but dont flood your heads with reasons why you are, are not, or should be getting laid.

edit: and you dont need drugs to help you either (but booze helps [img]/images/graemlins/tongue.gif[/img])

edit edit: oh and stop sitting in your room by yourself playing video games and stop beating off.