What to do when a girl loves you (and you dont love them back)

[mooney]

So, you've been hooking up with a girl that you know pretty well and she tells you she loves you. You do not love her, and will probably never, but you still want to bang her every now and then.
How do you deal with this?

What do you say/do to keep things from going towards a more serious relationship?

[Dominic]

if you're a decent human being, you don't see her anymore. If you're an azzhole, you keep tell her you're interested in "something more" and keep banging her.

[XXXNoahXXX]

There is nothing you can do.

No matter how much you tell a girl like this that you aren't interested in a relationship and you just want casual sex, they will think they can change your mind.

Then you try breaking it off, they call you when you are drunk, you have sex, rinse and repeat.

The real awkward part is when you use the "I'm not looking for a serious relationship. It's not you." Then you start dating someone a few weeks later.

[SuperUberBob]

Keep her dangling and just have sex with her. She will eventually conclude on her own that you're merely using her for sex and the break up will occur naturally.

If she never figures out, keep blasting away.

[Bobb]

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Keep her dangling and just have sex with her. She will eventually conclude on her own that you're merely using her for sex and the break up will occur naturally.

If she never figures out, keep blasting away.

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Hopefully you're kidding.

OP: Be an actual man, end it.

[PokerFink]

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OP: Be an actual man, end it.

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How is that being an actual man?

Flip the situation. You're in love with a girl you're seeing and she only wants you for sex. Would you rather her break it off with you or just say "I'm sorry, I don't want a relationship" and continue having sex with you?

OP: Just be honest. Tell her you aren't looking for a relationship but enjoy her company and would like to continue hanging out. If she's ok with it, great. If not, oh well.

[MasterTrav]

LMAO this is my current situation exactly: Girl loves me, I like her a good amount but I don't love her and would never see her truly longterm.

I just did my best to end it, told her its over, yelled at her.. she just called me tonight, 2 days later. It's not exactly cut and dry to be an actual man..

[drexah]

so why exactly did you yell at her?

[captZEEbo]

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OP: Be an actual man, end it.

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How is that being an actual man?

Flip the situation. You're in love with a girl you're seeing and she only wants you for sex. Would you rather her break it off with you or just say "I'm sorry, I don't want a relationship" and continue having sex with you?

OP: Just be honest. Tell her you aren't looking for a relationship but enjoy her company and would like to continue hanging out. If she's ok with it, great. If not, oh well.

[/ QUOTE ]if you don't end it, you perpetuate her fantasy of hope which prevents her from having a real relationship with someone else.

role reversal isn't equivalent on average, because many/most guys would love some girl to have casual sex all the time with them, but girls on average don't want casual sex all the time.

[TiK]

Be honest, tell her that she wants something different than you do, tell her you don't love her. If she's sane, she'll say fine, and end it. If not, duck and cover, change your phone number and get the hell outta Dodge, cuz you're in for some Fatal Attraction-type [censored].