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Re: Poker & Your Girlfriend
I figure I can share my story.
I've been dating my girlfriend (now fiancee) for 13 months (and 6 months prior) now, and she has known about me playing poker since I've started in late 2005. She knows I make money and she likes having the extra spending cash. She didnt mind when times were tough (lol nl25) and she supported me the whole way. I was living with my parents at the time, and in May, we decided that we were gonna move to a new town (my girlfriend and I). I had a job at a distribution center, getting up at 5am for $9.50/hr sucked so bad and I was depressed all the time. I found a new job working at a pizza place (with tips it ended up being around $11.50/hr) part-time while I played poker, girlfriend fully supported that because I make more when I play than when I work. Well, about a month into that job my bosses were pretty retarded and made [censored] business decisions and switched my schedule around, so I told my girlfriend about it and she pretty much flat out told me that I could play poker for a living while going to school because she knows I'm good enough. We're engaged now and plan to be married in a couple years (she wants to be 21 first), and I've never been happier because I set my own hours, and she doesn't have to spend every weekend night alone until 2 am when I used to get home from work. It's all about finding the right girl. |
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My g/f almost certainly thinks i spend too much time playing poker but then I didnt ask her to move in with me and to be brutally honest, it's only the poker which allows me to put up with her. [/ QUOTE ] [img]/images/graemlins/confused.gif[/img] |
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[ QUOTE ] My g/f almost certainly thinks i spend too much time playing poker but then I didnt ask her to move in with me and to be brutally honest, it's only the poker which allows me to put up with her. [/ QUOTE ] [img]/images/graemlins/confused.gif[/img] [/ QUOTE ] my g/f is a clinical depressive who used emotional blackmail to move in with me when i wasn't prepared for it. this basically ended my 15-year career in an excellent job as an I.T. consultant that travelled Europe. whether i couldnt do the job because of her neediness or whether i just couldnt be bothered anymore because of pathetic situation i got myself into would be up for psychological debate. what i'm saying is that if i didnt have the outlet of poker i would probably have long been found up some alleyway with a needle in my arm. hows that for brutal honesty among poker players? the irony of this is that i actually make a reasonable living out of poker - it pays my bills, and i enjoy it. |
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Just gave my GF a 15k car and paid cash. She still won't let me play poker on sunday and monday
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[ QUOTE ] [ QUOTE ] My g/f almost certainly thinks i spend too much time playing poker but then I didnt ask her to move in with me and to be brutally honest, it's only the poker which allows me to put up with her. [/ QUOTE ] [img]/images/graemlins/confused.gif[/img] [/ QUOTE ] my g/f is a clinical depressive who used emotional blackmail to move in with me when i wasn't prepared for it. this basically ended my 15-year career in an excellent job as an I.T. consultant that travelled Europe. whether i couldnt do the job because of her neediness or whether i just couldnt be bothered anymore because of pathetic situation i got myself into would be up for psychological debate. what i'm saying is that if i didnt have the outlet of poker i would probably have long been found up some alleyway with a needle in my arm. hows that for brutal honesty among poker players? the irony of this is that i actually make a reasonable living out of poker - it pays my bills, and i enjoy it. [/ QUOTE ] [img]/images/graemlins/frown.gif[/img] |
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dude, it's like you're in my head walking around. My gf hates poker, help me!!
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I explained to my girlfriend (who is a smart cookie) about how I've read 5+ poker books and explained a little of the math of it. Thus proving that it is profitable to play as I am a winning player. Even explained my win-rate over dozens of live sessions to shut her up.
I also told her: "I can't be THAT lucky, it is my Skill, and heck if I am THAT lucky then you should be happy because you're with me: the Super lucky one" lawl She would fully understand that poker (for me) is +EV, except for the fact that she (like many women in this situation) do not listen. They just keep their pre-existing notions on gambling and hold to them. My girlfriend finally understands somewhat, but I do my best to never bring up poker. She may accept it and understand it somewhat, but she doesn't need to hear about the gambling. Gambling is a touchy subject for most peoples. And if it isn't a "touchy subject" then that person is probably a gambler, and a loser at that (as the ratio of losers to winners is massive). One final note in convincing your girlfriend that poker is perfectly fine: Money Talks. |
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A lot of you probably read my post earlier this week about my girl troubles. Mine falls in the middle of these two.
Heres my philosophy: When she stops caring what you're doing, she's stopped loving you. And by then she is probably cheating on you as well. So as long as she cares about what you are doing, and you want to be with her, you should give her what she needs. If not, then let it go. That is my dilemma right now, to have all the time in the world to play poker and drink and party, or to have a girl that loves and cares about me but rags me to death. Case pending. |
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To oddsock: i dont know enough details about your situation but your gf didnt make you quit your job, etc. You did.
So put up some boundaries and take care of yourself. Let her problems be her problems. if you think that way youll probably get laid more too. |
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When I met my girlfriends parents for the first time, the first thing her dad asked me was "so, howd you do in the Heartland Poker Tournament"....and we talked about how I busted out...my girlfriend listens to all my stories and keeps me level headed about poker, its actually the one thing i do that she doesnt mind. Now browsing 2+2 forums all day is another story!
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