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11-21-2007, 08:23 PM
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Re: Do you want to have children?
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[ QUOTE ] I have some good friends who are in their early sixties. They are both wealthy profesionals who chose their lifestyle over having children. They now admit that it was the biggest mistake of their lives and that they could not have foreseen how it would effect them in later life. [/ QUOTE ] Why do they regret their decision? Specifically why do they feel their life is worse because of the choice they made? [/ QUOTE ] Because money and fame isn't everything. 
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11-22-2007, 12:22 AM
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Re: Do you want to have children?
New to thread, me 24, her 26, no we don't plan on having kids but always say it in the "ha ha i know we're too damn young and our attitude will change" voice.
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11-22-2007, 12:31 AM
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Re: Do you want to have children?
people seem to be against having their own kids when there are kids all ready in need, so to those w/kids: do you think you would have loved an adopted child as much you love your own offspring?
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11-22-2007, 03:36 AM
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Re: Do you want to have children?
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Because money and fame isn't everything. [/ QUOTE ] True. I'd say having fun and enjoying life is what matters. A child though would greatly interfere with both of those. [ QUOTE ] For those asking for a defintion of the intangible benefits, you know that everyday ordinary guy in the movies, who suddenly becomes an all out super hero when his family is threatened? That's what having kids does to you. Inside you're that guy all the time because you are responsible for these people you love. [/ QUOTE ] I would argue that if someone is accomplished they will already feel that way even without children. But for arguments sake lets assume that I would get some of this euphoric feeling from having a child. Is the gain from that really enough to counterbalance the negative of now having a relatively boring 15-16 years? I can't answer that for other people but for myself I know that isn't the case. In ordering preferences I'd put death above a boring existence so even if I gained somewhat by having a child at most it would bring me up to content while by not having a child I am already at very happy.
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11-22-2007, 06:36 PM
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Re: Do you want to have children?
Why am I being naive? Having a child = boring life for at least the 15-16 years until the child can be fairly independent. For myself no abstract positive feeling could ever be worth losing such a large percentage of the good years. It might be the correct choice for some but certainly not all. I know what I want out of life and it does not include being limited by children. To think everyone wants the same things is naive.
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