Personal / dating / whatever life situation general advice thread

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this is absolutely a great plan as long as there is no thin veneer of friendliness between y'all that needs to be preserved.

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that's kind of tough considering she's going to be in our wedding. so, yes, friendliness must be preserved. I don't see how I can convey my message in a "friendly" way where it actually gets through to her.

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I'm normally all for direct, but turnipmonster is right: this may be a situation where the direct approach will cause problems. Maybe a group discussion when she's around and you make it clear that you aren't up for frequent, repeat guests? Probably the type of thing that will fly over her head, or that she'll think won't apply to her, but who knows....

Maybe it's best just to do it now, get it over with, and let her get over it in time for the wedding?