Introverts v. Extroverts

[Acorn Sigma]

http://www.giftedservices.com.au/Sta...ntroverts.html

I found this interesting. I am a natural introvert, like a lot of internet poker players, but I appreciate the "benefits" listed of interaction with other humans. Everyone is different, that's just what works for me.

I wonder which group of people tends to be "happier" or if there is a difference.

~AS

[PJo336]

We took a test on this in one of my classes. I was a 2 towards extrovert, out of 100. Basically it said if you were 3 or lower you could swing both ways. I think the whole idea of being an introvert or an extrovert is that you are happier in those situations, meaning there really is no difference.

[holdme]

There's no reason why a webpage should tell you who you are or how you act, based oftentimes on an inaccurate test.

[NickMPK]

I don't think extroverts are naturally any happier than introverts. But I think introverts are so frequently pressured into situations that only extroverts enjoy that they situationally tend to be less happy. Extroverts are rarely forced into situations where only an introvert is happy.

[slik]

I believe that happiness has a lot to do with self-esteem and self-worth, and as an introvert, I have a feeling that introverts may have lower self esteem on average than extroverts. The biggest issue I have is the entire keeping to oneself for fear of humiliation... and I need to condition myself out of this.

[DonkBluffer]

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I believe that happiness has a lot to do with self-esteem and self-worth, and as an introvert, I have a feeling that introverts may have lower self esteem on average than extroverts. The biggest issue I have is the entire keeping to oneself for fear of humiliation... and I need to condition myself out of this.

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ditto

I'm actually working on losing my whole shyness/social anxiety/fear of rejection [censored] etc. now

IMO, if you are an introvert because you're afraid of what other people might think of you, then that's just wrong. There's a difference between choosing to be an introvert because that's just what you prefer and being unable to be who you want to be around other people for fear of rejection and humiliation.

[Ben K]

I'm in the same boat and I agree with you.

Strangely, when I'm travelling or visiting someplace I'm almost totally different when out and happy to talk to randoms. But when I'm in my home town, I'm painfully shy and unable to talk to people, especially women when out.

I dont mind the embarassment so much, it's more the sense of expectation that I think people may have of me because it's my home town and I will have been seen around fairly often. A stupid self-fulfilling prophecy of thinking I can't talk to women and then screwing it up when the opportunity arises. A mate of mine just caught single so we're out fairly often and he's helping bring me out of my shell. Anyway, good luck.

Anyway, as for introversion/extro generally, I'm happy both ways. Would probably say I'm happier when I'm being extroverted but that probably corresponds to the social aspect of having a laugh and being stupid. It does get tiring though.

[chicagoY]

You've never seen total non-productivity until you've worked in a workplace full of extroverts. They can't get anything done and that's why they naturally can't stand introverts. We're the higher functioning competition, lol.

[chicagoY]

Acorn, if you're interested, here's an excellent book on the subject.

[chicagoY]

Nah, extroverts accomplish less because when you're talking you're not learning, thinking or doing so if they have higher self-esteem it's merely bogus self-esteem.