December's "You'll Shoot Your Eye Out" NC Chat thread

katyseagull · #1 12-01-2007, 05:20 PM

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I just wrote an upset e-mail but did not send it, but I kept it as a draft, because I really want to send it out.

Anyone besides me ever do this kind of thing?

If I copy/paste it, would the Lounge be willing to help me edit and rephrase it?

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Yep, I've done that kind of thing before. Copy/paste it for us. We want to see it!

and of course we will be willing to help you edit it.

Wheelzie · #2 12-01-2007, 05:33 PM

I hope I get a gun for christmas.

daveT · #3 12-01-2007, 05:37 PM

Okay, The Lounge, I am smiling because you guys are going to make me feel better. [img]/images/graemlins/laugh.gif[/img]

Entitled: [img]/images/graemlins/confused.gif[/img]

To (some chick, okay?)

I know that you are sick, and maybe I am over-reacting, and yes, I admit that I can be a bit dramatic at times.

It feels like every time that I call you, you are performing a daunting chore. I always hear you laugh, but it is almost like you can't stand to say hi and you can't wait to get off of the phone. Do you realize how it feel so hear "Oh (damn), what's up, Dave?" I know that we have been e-mailing for four years or however long, but the people that we were when we talked all night on the patio are not the people we are now.

Today, talking to you was even weirder, like yeah, it is okay to talk, but don't hang up although you are sick, but then a friend is coming over. I am also disturbed that I don't get any response to my last e-mail. And lets be honest, this whole year, we have probably only sent each other five e-mails total.

I think that you are giving me a hint, but maybe I am too stupid to see it. I don't know. The reality is that we don't even know each other anymore, and I feel like you think it is too much work to bother. And yes, I am starting to feel that way as well.

This has all been on my mind for the past week. If you don't e-mail me back, I will take that as a cut line. I won't say that I don't care, but I have let closer people go.

Best Wishes.
Dave.

katyseagull · #4 12-01-2007, 05:46 PM

I think we need to soften it a bit. Give her the benefit of the doubt more. I'm in favor of dropping these 2 lines altogether

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I am also disturbed that I don't get any response to my last e-mail. And lets be honest, this whole year, we have probably only sent each other five e-mails total.

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If you want to keep the five emails comment maybe say something like - "hey girl, email me more often [img]/images/graemlins/smile.gif[/img] I like hearing from you. It makes my day!"

I don't know, what do the rest of you guys think. Let's help Dave out here, he's been a valuable member of our community. Constructive help is needed.

tarheeljks · #5 12-01-2007, 06:31 PM

dave,this is an example of you being upset? i'm impressed.

edit: katy's suggestion is softer, although i don't think this tone is all that harsh to begin with.

tarheeljks · #6 12-01-2007, 06:33 PM

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dave,this is an example of you being upset? i'm impressed.

edit: katy's suggestion is softer, although i don't think this tone is all that harsh to begin with.

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edit: except for the last part. i would remove that b/c it could seal the deal on its own.

daveT · #7 12-01-2007, 06:46 PM

Your right tarheels, the letter does not deliver on the intro's promise. Face to face, I can be way more honest and rude, but here, I intend to be gentle. I am not actually mad, just confused. I think that the letter is firm enough that she would get the point.

I wonder if her "friend" is some dude?

J.A.K. · #8 12-01-2007, 06:57 PM

I'm lost. Is this just a friend you are upset with for not keeping in touch more? Or something that escalated into no-man's land and you don't know what's going on?

tarheeljks · #9 12-01-2007, 07:00 PM

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Your right tarheels, the letter does not deliver on the intro's promise. Face to face, I can be way more honest and rude, but here, I intend to be gentle. I am not actually mad, just confused. I think that the letter is firm enough that she would get the point.

I wonder if her "friend" is some dude?

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i think being gentle is a good idea. i think the email is fine overall but that you get too defensive at the end.

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. . . And yes, I am starting to feel that way as well.

This has all been on my mind for the past week. If you don't e-mail me back, I will take that as a cut line. I won't say that I don't care, but I have let closer people go.

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granted idk how long you've been trying to maintain contact w/little effort on her part. saying something like, but the signals here are very mixed.

Dominic · #10 12-01-2007, 08:48 PM

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Your right tarheels, the letter does not deliver on the intro's promise. Face to face, I can be way more honest and rude, but here, I intend to be gentle. I am not actually mad, just confused. I think that the letter is firm enough that she would get the point.

I wonder if her "friend" is some dude?

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The friend is always some other dude.