Another "Am I a D-bag" thread

[dizzle98]

So you think it's ok to get involved in something that doesn't involve you (an "angle" where villain doesn't show his cards first...even though that isn't even an angle, it's just being kind of a jerk) but you get mad when that same player puts himself into YOUR business at another time?

Yeah that makes you a bit of a d-bag. Seems like you were just looking for a way to get into it with this guy. And for all anyone knows this guy wouldn't have said a word in this situation if you hadn't gotten into his business before.

[quickfetus]

You're not a douche at all, I would have gotten pissed at the guy and said something about his small brain. If not for his buddies there, I also would have spent the rest of my time at the table referring to the difficulty of counting his money.

[Edge34]

If he pissed me off bad enough and I could fade it, I would ask him how big the last pot I took off him was. Then I would tip the dealer every cent I had just taken off him.

THAT might be a d-bag move, but that would be entertaining IMO.

[KhalynYohrk]

Call him dingleberry and tell him to shut his pie hole.

Yes you were a bit duchey for confronting, he is the obv dbag no need to make a scene.

That said I have a confession, I was in a pot where I flopped a set of deuces and it was bet out and I vtowned my set vs a flush draw on the flop and by the turn there was 800 in the pot and I moved AI for 400 more, guy flipped up nut flush draw and I told him what I had being semi happy to take it down. He called and afterward I tounge in cheek thanked him for calling, D-bag?

[TomBrooks]

He was the D-Bag, but he trapped you into the D-Baggery Trap.

1. He just lost a big pot, give him some slack.

2. He's steaming which is good for you. Don't fall into a steam-trap yourself.

3. The dealer made a mistake here. Don't take that out on him. You could mention it to the dealer or the floor later and ask her not to respond to questions about your tips.

[pfapfap]

I really don't understand all this chest-beating confrontation? Why is any response at all necessary? Why is this something worthy of anything more than a bemused dismissal?

Also, while I agree that dealers shouldn't talk about their tips, this dealer may have been in an awkward situation with not wanting to be rude to a regular who tips a lot. Still not good, but understandable in the context.

[KamiKatze]

Hit guy in face with solid next time.

[MicroBob]

Yeah, I wouldn't be too ticked off at the dealer in this situation. Even though I think it's inappropriate I understand that she's not exactly signalling to him after every hand or something like that. She's only responding to what she was asked.

The chest-beating confrontation stuff I don't quite get either although I guess we've got some adrenilin rushing around and stuff like that both from having won a big pot and also having some guy act really d-baggy practically directly at us.
But asking, "do you have a problem with how much I tip?" is almost TRYING to turn practically nothing into something.
If he says, "no dude. whatever. tip however much you want" then it seems OP is positioned to respond, "good...then butt the hell out of my business" which is starting just as much stuff as "yes, I do" with "what the hell is your problem?"

No matter what he responds to this question OP is going to be able to run it into a more escalted situation.

Again, I do have problems with the guy asking the dealer how much he tipped. That guy is an idiot. But I think you have to learn to walk away from some of this stuff otherwise you are just going to end up getting into non-stop super-macho confrontations because there are plenty of opportunities for them if that is what you're after.

I've had guys yap at me at the table before in a semi-similar fashion and I just let it go because they're drunk and/or stupid.
Just try to take some more of their money on the next hand.

However, it should be noted that I have never played in any of the California rooms where I hear some of this stuff is a bit more common. I might find myself making threats or exchanging much more impolite language if a ruder situation presented itself.

[Samson5]

Nothing wrong with the way you handled it. None of his business what you tip and I would have confronted him and given his friends a ration if they joined in. He and his friends sound like they enjoy ganging up on someone. That's probably why he acted the way he did -- he knew they'd back him up.

[Doc T River]

I think your tip was a little light, but I don't think that makes you a douche bag. The other player should not have asked how much you tipped and the dealer should not have responded.