Girl say says we are moving too fast trip report

[mouseman]

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I love OOT because when someone comes here with a problem that they truely don't know how to handle, its a 50/50 shot that they will be able to pick the good advice out of all the bad OOT advice. In a way this makes getting advice from OOT gambling, which i suppose is what 2+2 is all about.

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Very true

[Hopey]

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Of course I want more sex. But its not only the sex Im intersted in. Im just asking oot what the best way to get her back to thinking Im not some creep.
I'm kind of a nice guy and don't want to ignore her calls for the next couple days and make her sweat it and make her feel bad, but I guess most girls like to be treated like crap. I guess I won't call her and maybe give her a call over the weekend.

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You can't "convince her" that you're not a creep. You actually have to not be a creep. Going over to her house with flowers and explaining how you feel about her would help put her mind at ease. She is obviously a little embarrassed that she had relations with you so early on in the relationship, and now wants an emotional cuddle to let her know that you also would have preferred to get to know her better before engaging in the sex act.

Once you make this loving gesture, she will realize that the two of you share something beyong just physical affection, and you can proceed with your relationship at a pace that both of you find comfortable.

You should both, however, consider couples counseling. I still find it somehwat disturbing that she did not see the invitation to your mother's 50th birthday party as the loving gesture that it was so clearly meant to be. Good luck to you both.

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You definitely need to post more often. This is awesome. [img]/images/graemlins/smile.gif[/img]

[DeezNuts]

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Of course I want more sex. But its not only the sex Im intersted in. Im just asking oot what the best way to get her back to thinking Im not some creep.
I'm kind of a nice guy and don't want to ignore her calls for the next couple days and make her sweat it and make her feel bad, but I guess most girls like to be treated like crap. I guess I won't call her and maybe give her a call over the weekend.

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You can't "convince her" that you're not a creep. You actually have to not be a creep. Going over to her house with flowers and explaining how you feel about her would help put her mind at ease. She is obviously a little embarrassed that she had relations with you so early on in the relationship, and now wants an emotional cuddle to let her know that you also would have preferred to get to know her better before engaging in the sex act.

Once you make this loving gesture, she will realize that the two of you share something beyong just physical affection, and you can proceed with your relationship at a pace that both of you find comfortable.

You should both, however, consider couples counseling. I still find it somehwat disturbing that she did not see the invitation to your mother's 50th birthday party as the loving gesture that it was so clearly meant to be. Good luck to you both.

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I am so tempted to create a "dsmithisright" gimmick account.

DN

[The Yugoslavian]

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The freeze out. Cat string theory obv

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Lol this is funny if it's a joke and funnier if it's supposed to apply to this situation.

Yugoslav

[The Yugoslavian]

So much of the advice is sooooo soooo bad. There are some good points to what ppl are saying but it's all too systematic and scared thinking IMO.

Even dsmith is wrong and then right, lol. Don't try calling her up and logically convincing her why she should be ok with the situation, that's dumb.

However, taking steps like not calling for a few days, or "backing off" so that she *feels* like you're not all up ons isn't quite right either - altho it's a good direction.

She is having some buyers remorse from getting involved with you b/c ur making the relationship a BIG DEAL. Well it shouldn't be....yet. Sex != BIG DEAL so that is not a good reason to start acting all wacky. If you're hanging out with ur mom anyway you can invite her along but again, it's NOT A BIG DEAL. If she thinks it is, then just say you understand.

If she says you're taking it too fast you can just tell her you understand and respect that - would she like to go do something chill and non-pressurized? You can always move her to a location for sex later subtley. Right now it seems like you're telegraphing that you want her for sex....and that you want her to be ur "big deal" g/f....this is way too much pressure atm for a woman who had a drunken hookup with some dude.

Yugoslav

[mouseman]

Ugh, I just got a text saying "Hi". She's trying to play mind games now.

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Dont text her back for at least an hour or two.

[4_2_it]

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Ugh, I just got a text saying "Hi". She's trying to play mind games now.

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"Hey. Can't talk, I'm on the phone with mom."

[Hopey]

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Ugh, I just got a text saying "Hi". She's trying to play mind games now.

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LOL...reading too much into things, dude.

[slickpoppa]

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Dont text her back for at least a month or two. Ask her if you f***ed

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