Sexual Double Standards (female input would be greatly appreciated) - Page 5

SoloAJ · #41 04-01-2007, 12:00 AM

Of course you are right about that last bit sub. However, saying that there is nothing necessarily wrong with that just because they are both physically mature is somewhat silly.

The effects that something like that has on a 14 year old can be devastating (although this is not a blanket statement saying it would in all cases).

Looking is impulse. Fine.
Thinking is a mix, but mostly harmless, obviously. Fine.
Saying that nothing is wrong with a 35 year old man sexing a 14 year old who is physically mature and "wants it" is just bad bad bad.

SoloAJ · #42 04-01-2007, 12:05 AM

hmk, what in my post were you disagreeing with? There was nothing you could disagree with that matched up with the rest of your response. I'm confused.

And yeah, no kidding a lot of adults can't handle relationships in a healthy manner. But you're talking about a person double their age having sex with someone who is still very much so in the formative years in terms of their brain processes. Yeah the first breakup is the hardest, but do you really want a 15 year old girl trying to figure out why a 30 year old guy was the one who let her in on this fact?

hmkpoker · #43 04-01-2007, 12:18 AM

My disagreement was with banks2334's claim that early teenagers (by and large) are inherently not able to have sexual relationships without it opening a pandora's box of emotional issues. (Not so much with what you're saying)

I think that a lot of difficulties teens have with sex are rooted in their social conditioning and environments; not their biology.

For example, high school relationships have probably the most drama you'll ever witness in your life. People are quick to say that this is because they're young and therefore immature. But high schoolers are also in a very different environment than adults. They are required to co-exist in the same place for four years, seeing the same people every day for hours on end. Their peer group (from whom it is expected that they will make friends and romantic partners) is completely centralized. This means that when you break up with girl in your English class, you still have to interact with her every single day. If adults had to exist in that kind of situation, there would be a lot more unnecessary, immature drama in everyone's life.

Banks2334 · #44 04-01-2007, 01:03 AM

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My disagreement was with banks2334's claim that early teenagers (by and large) are inherently not able to have sexual relationships without it opening a pandora's box of emotional issues. (Not so much with what you're saying)

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So I'll ask you again, what makes you think that a 14 year old boy is emotionally ready to handle sex with his 25 year old teacher? I'm still waiting to hear a reason why this is a good idea. Heck, I'll take a reason why this isn't a bad idea.

As for your point about social conditioning and environment. High schoolers act like high schoolers because they don't know how to deal with the people and the situations that they are in. How does adding sex into the equation make it any easier to handle?

adsman · #45 04-01-2007, 01:41 AM

I was at the airport yesterday to pick up a friend of mine. While waiting for him a group of 50 or so English school girls on a ski holiday came throught the gate. They were about 16. There were some definite hotties in the group. I acknowledged the hotness of some of these girls to myself. Some of the girls openly checked me out. I remained outwardly indifferent to the whole situation.

Yes they were hot. Fine to have a look, but I wouldn't ever take it anywhere. On the basis of levels of maturity it would be exploitation.

That and 16 year old girls can never keep their mouths shut.

killsadie · #46 04-01-2007, 02:07 AM

omg OP LOL

JP OSU · #47 04-01-2007, 03:25 AM

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For example, high school relationships have probably the most drama you'll ever witness in your life. People are quick to say that this is because they're young and therefore immature. But high schoolers are also in a very different environment than adults. They are required to co-exist in the same place for four years, seeing the same people every day for hours on end. Their peer group (from whom it is expected that they will make friends and romantic partners) is completely centralized. This means that when you break up with girl in your English class, you still have to interact with her every single day. If adults had to exist in that kind of situation, there would be a lot more unnecessary, immature drama in everyone's life.

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I actually never thought about that before... I have heard that law school is filled with much the same drama as high school... This would definitely support that notion...

greyhawke54 · #48 04-01-2007, 03:30 AM

History on this is interesting. There was a time not all that long ago that a young girl was considered an old maid if she was not married by the age of 16. They also tended to marry older men often as much as twice there age, because they were more stable and able to handle the responsiblities of providing for a family. I am not saying that this is the case in our present time.

Also consider that most men have a protection instinct within them. It is natural for men to want to protect women. This one of the reasons for the double standard.

A lot of problems arise from the fact that the feminist movement wants women to be held to the same standards as men. This is simply not a good idea as men and women are different. I am not however saying that either one is superior to the other. Many problems in our society come from this. Men and women are different they have different strengths and weakness. This is because we have different roles to play. Science also proves this out. There have been studies done showing that men and womens brains are different. Men in general are better with some activities that women are not as good at. By the same token women excel at other activities that most men have difficulty with. Most any one that has had any experience with the opposite sex realize that each tends to solve problems in differnt ways.

I myself have a triple standard. One for men, one for women, and one for my daughter. I think most fathers are this way.

The bottom line is that men and women are a team. Think of us as 2 halves of a whole. We are not complete on our own.

Big Poppa Smurf · #49 04-01-2007, 03:39 AM

IT'S A TRAP

React1oN · #50 04-01-2007, 03:41 AM

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I'm only 21 and feel bad looking at a 14-15 year old in a sexual manner... I try as hard as I can to ignore them. If I notice a young teenager as sexy or what-have-you, I feel like a creep.

I'm guessing most everyone else is like this?

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