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\"He has to like her more\"
I always hear people say this, that is, the guy HAS TO like the girl more than the girl likes the guy for the relationship to work. I understand that it's partially because guys are much more likely to cheat. Also, it seems for some girls basically all that they need is for the guy to be completely in love with them for a relationship to work, but for guys, this doesn't seem to be enough.
I've definitely seen this play out in most real-life relationships; at best there seems to be an equal amount of "like" between the two people, at worst the guy is a slobbering puppy dog when the girl is around. I know I'm generalizing and of course there are a million other factors that go into a successful relationship, but is this generally a true statement? DN |
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Re: \"He has to like her more\"
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guys are much more likely to cheat. [/ QUOTE ] sometimes I wonder if this is just a lie we tell ourselves. |
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Re: \"He has to like her more\"
I think it's exactly the opposite, dude. How many threads does OOT have where some guy is posting about a failed relationship, esp. early in the relationship, in which he let himself fall too hard for some chick and she got scared off or tired of him? Why do you think jerks get chicks?
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Re: \"He has to like her more\"
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I think it's exactly the opposite [/ QUOTE ] True dat. Women hate needy guys. They want to be the needy ones |
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Re: \"He has to like her more\"
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Why do you think jerks get chicks? [/ QUOTE ] [ QUOTE ] I always hear people say this, that is, the guy HAS TO like the girl more than the girl likes the guy for the relationship to work. [/ QUOTE ] Wook - what % of the relationships "jerks" are in with chicks do you think are working out well? DN - I think this is not necessarily true "feeling" wise, but from a female perception standpoint (meaning how the girl looks at the relationship) I think it's important because yes, girls are needier and they need to feel that the guy is incented to stick around. -Al |
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Re: \"He has to like her more\"
OP,
I think you're confusing a working relationship with a girl walking all over a guy. |
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Re: \"He has to like her more\"
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I think it's exactly the opposite, dude. How many threads does OOT have where some guy is posting about a failed relationship, esp. early in the relationship, in which he let himself fall too hard for some chick and she got scared off or tired of him? Why do you think jerks get chicks? [/ QUOTE ] I agree with Wookie...I also agree with the prior poster who referenced that the whole "men cheat more than women" thing is a lie (or at least an outdated concept, especially in the US). Women these days in America have a lot more options and expect a whole lot more than they did in the 60s -70s when they pretty much were just looking to get married and career opportunities were nowhere near as big as they are today (hrmmmpppp...what a joke, career opportunities - by and large careers suck today in the US). So I think as a result they cheat as much as guys for sure it's just that TV/Hollywood and the general public don't show it as much as the traditional cheating used to be all about the guy. Also, I think historically women have just been a whole lot better at keeping a secret and so it's always been a little closer than the numbers would actually suggest. Edit: wow that was my 999th post almost at 1000! |
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Re: \"He has to like her more\"
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[ QUOTE ] guys are much more likely to cheat. [/ QUOTE ] sometimes I wonder if this is just a lie we tell ourselves. [/ QUOTE ] I think we're more likely to get caught/brag about cheating. |
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Re: \"He has to like her more\"
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[ QUOTE ] guys are much more likely to cheat. [/ QUOTE ] sometimes I wonder if this is just a lie we tell ourselves. [/ QUOTE ] I want to say there are studies which suggest women cheat as much or more than men. Maybe someone ambitious can research this. I am sure there have been sociology or psychology studies on this exact issue. |
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Re: \"He has to like her more\"
Deez,
Hmmmm... I've actually never heard that. I've always thought that one person liking the other person more than they are liked back is the recipe for a relationship that won't work. Obviously there's rarely a 100% match, but I think the best relationships are all people who like each other more or less to the same degree. |
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