I have no social skills, am incredibly boring, and want to end it

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I mean I guess this has been a long term problem, but has specifically flared up this weekend, with the girl I'm seeing. For the first 36 hours we were together it was great. We talked about her law school orientation, about my quitting my job, how the LSATs were coming, but eventually it just got flat, and we couldn't talk about anything. We went out to a bar, and I just had nothing new to add, besides what was on the TV there. It's just frustrating


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Hmmm this happens to me after 36 minutes. I consider myself pretty good at conversation, and you approximately 83.07x the conversationalist I am! [img]/images/graemlins/grin.gif[/img]

Seriously, it is perfectly normal to run out of things to say. Or to have non-ideal moments. What sucks is your anxiety or depression about it. Try to enjoy where you are RIGHT NOW and don't worry or feel bad or whatever it is you are feeling. Try to make a conscious effort not to think negative thoughts because they build up. Positive thoughts also tend to build on themselves, it gets easier the more you do it. Life is so fun, and there's so much out there, I don't know why you are getting hung up on this stuff.

I wish I could help you. Good luck.

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and want to end it

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Anyone else thought reading this subject line that OP was contemplating suicide?

[kerowo]

Go into IT

[Quicksilvre]

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and want to end it

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Anyone else thought reading this subject line that OP was contemplating suicide?

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I read the post before realizing how it sounds. Yeah, it does sound like that.

[SmileyEH]

Fill a backpack with a week's supply of clothes and buy a plane ticket to europe (or anywhere with a lot of young tourists). You'll interact with people for a couple days at a time so you wont be so paranoid about being boring, and you'll have lots of fun experiences to add to your anecdote catalog.

[JasonK]

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Anyone else thought reading this subject line that OP was contemplating suicide?

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That's what I thought before reading the post.

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Fill a backpack with a week's supply of clothes and buy a plane ticket to europe (or anywhere with a lot of young tourists). You'll interact with people for a couple days at a time so you wont be so paranoid about being boring, and you'll have lots of fun experiences to add to your anecdote catalog.

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This, or something like this, sounds like a good idea. (As long as there are no expectations for the trip). Just going out and doing stuff. He may wind up as a wallflower for portions of the trip, but it sounds fun anyway.

[bkholdem]

Sounds kind of like a social phobia, do you think this might be true?

I would recommend talking to your PCP about it and see if a referral to a psychiatrist is indicated. An antidepressant (some help with social anxiety) or anti anxiety medication may help.

I think that it would also be useful to talk with a therapist, try to see a psychologist rather than a social worker and engage in some talk therapy.

Longer term treatment wise a referral to a group therapy group may assist you a great deal (some groups are very high functioning, with physicians, lawyers, etc as participants). Most will take you on a sliding scale and insurance may pay as well.

So get assessed and treated medically to begin with. If you do that, in 3-6 months you will be in a much better postion to decide how you can work on this outside the realm of professional assistance (join a club, whatever).

[Oliver Nipples]

Go to Viking Resort in the Dominican, get the Executive package.

[captZEEbo]

I know you said you are in good shape, but do you exercise at all? Exercising tricks your mind into being happier somehow and you are more energetic. You should try doing some exercising activities.