Optimal number of friends

[CallMeIshmael]

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EV of friends(number of friends = X) = -1.96X^2+20.4X+44.3


Ill let you take it from there

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It's as if you're doing problem sets on second order non-linear fitting and your goggles are permanently tinted.

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<--- graduated

[Minimalist]

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wow, some of the 1st few posts here are kinda shocking to me. Of course I have 3 to 5 very very close friends, and 1 BEST friend aside from my boyfriend, but then tons of "regular" friends. I dont see anything wrong with this, its not a need to be popular nor a need for validation. I know who I am as a person and with the way I am i interact with a lot of people, and choose to keep in touch with the majority fo them. Ive been out of high school almost 10 years and still talk to or see over about 200 people at least once a year that I went to HS with, and there is a good 30 of them I see almost monthly and talk to even more, and thats "just" HS. There has obviously been a lot of time since then so I have made a large number of "friends" since then, that I still interact with frequently. My reasons for having a large number of friends is not for what most of you here would attack it for, since it seems many of you dont possesses a lot of friends. I enjoy having them because I do a wide variety of activities and travel, and there are certain groups that like to do certain things or that i met through doing certain things (wakeboarding, horse back riding, hiking, snowboarding, vacationing, etc.) I have even kept in touch with people I met in Central America that were from Australia and England and have met up with them in Europe since. Also a girl I met in South Africa that was from California has asked me to join her on a trip to Rio soon. I maintain friendships because I enjoy the people and doing certain things with them, not because it makes me feel a certain way about myself. I know who I am and none of these people change that in me, and most people I meet adore me for the person I am (this is not being conceited, Im being serious, and go ahead and attack it, if you knew me you would understand what I meant and I dont have time to defend it nor explain it right now). Having a lot of friends doesnt make you fake, and it doesnt make the "few" closer to you any less geniuine, but I see no problem with have a large number of friends - on the contrary I think its healthy and very well rounded. I think having a small number of human interactions limits you as a person and smoothers your own personal growth and self awareness. I have learned a lot from the number of friends Ive had or still have over the years, about myself and about life. Having the friends I do make me a better person and also stimulate my hyper personality haha I would be an extremely bored person if things were any other way (which is prevalent from how my life is currently because of my situation).

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Please, God, make it stop.

[CallMeIshmael]

alright, I have no idea where to post this, but it needs to get posted, so, what the hell, this is a daver thread, so it feels apt here:

evan (9:38:50 PM): do you think elaine would give me her im sn?

[stinkypete]

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alright, I have no idea where to post this, but it needs to get posted, so, what the hell, this is a daver thread, so it feels apt here:

evan (9:38:50 PM): do you think elaine would give me her im sn?

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i think so

[CallMeIshmael]

he's put the request in... its in her hands now

[Bicycles_Biatch]

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[Vyse]

2-3 very close friends, then about 3-4 good friends a tier below the first, then maybe ~10 friends after that I don't mind hanging out with.

[NT!]

what is a friend and what is a friendly acquaintance / drinking buddy or whatever? i think of a friend as somebody who i would be pissed at if they missed my birthday party without something else going on. whereas a buddy or acquaintance or whatever would probably just mean anyone that i would invite.

i have a lot of friends in places where i used to live who i try to see every time i'm there, but we may go six months or a year without speaking if i don't visit.

in terms of real friends in the place where i currently live i probably have no more than three or four, plus my girlfriend. i would have more but i don't like it here and i live really far away from everyone else in NYC. nobody is going to come up to the top of washington heights to see my bum ass.

[kevin017]

i've always had less than what i'd like. i have 3 close friends now + a gf, and all 4 of these people i'll be close with for life. this has pretty much been what i've always had, minus the girlfriend. The most close friends i've had at any point is probably 8 or so. I don't really have any friends beyond close friends. I have always had a small number of acquaintences but i've always been horrible at bridging the gap from them being someone I would say hi to and talk with for a little while vs. being someone i would contact directly to hang out or for any reason. I hurt myself because I don't put out the effor that i know i'd need to in order to make that type of acquaintence, and its 2x as hard because my gf and i are very close and i never have any trouble spending 100% of my free time with her.

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I'd think the number has to be in the 40-50s, I tend to rub my friends the wrong way if I regularly hang out with them, so I spread it around alot and seems to mean they are all closer when I do eventually get to see them. There are notable exceptions who I see weekly or atleast twice a month, but others I just go through intense regular outings followed by months of not hanging out.