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11-21-2007, 12:40 AM
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Re: Got company. $100 missing. Here\'s what I\'ve done.
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how close are you to the kid? if close and you are 100% positive the cash is missing and you are 99% sure that he took it, confront him and tell him that you value your relationship and that if he is honest with you and admits to taking the cash, you can put this behind you and move on. throw in the 'i was a kid once too' bs also. then if he admits it, tell him to tell you how much. if he is honest again...let him keep the cash as proof of how much you value him and his honesty in the matter. edit: forgot to mention...if he lies about it...beat him to a [censored] pulp behind closed doors [/ QUOTE ] This is pretty excellent advice I feel (apart from letting him keep it, like suzzer said, his reward is you dont tell his parents). If you arent sure enough about it to confront him, then I go with astros advice snubbing him I think is pretty terrible, if you are positive enough about it to snub him, then you should confront him, and if you arent positive enough to do that then its not fair to treat him like [censored] for a week. 
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11-21-2007, 11:34 AM
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Re: Got company. $100 missing. Here\'s what I\'ve done.
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This is pretty excellent advice I feel (apart from letting him keep it, like suzzer said, his reward is you dont tell his parents). [/ QUOTE ] Agreed. Excellent post by By-Tor. However, I think letting him keep the money is crucial. The act of generosity here will have a more profound impact than taking the money back. He will feel really guilty (assuming he is not a crappy person) and will NEVER forget about it. It also teaches the kid a lesson on forgiveness and generosity.
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11-21-2007, 12:21 AM
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Re: Got company. $100 missing. Here\'s what I\'ve done.
Trust that your brother (in-law?)'s care for his son is strong er than whatever has gotten him wound up and speak with him frankly about it. Even if he is angered with the difficulty of what to do, or angered by his own ownership in the situation, and projects it onto you. Behind it all, it's for your nephew's benefit. You said it, "I probably should."
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11-21-2007, 12:30 AM
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Re: Got company. $100 missing. Here\'s what I\'ve done.
Tell him its coming out of Christmas.
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11-30-2007, 02:13 PM
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Re: Got company. $100 missing. Here\'s what I\'ve done.
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Trust that your brother (in-law?)'s care for his son is strong er than whatever has gotten him wound up and speak with him frankly about it. Even if he is angered with the difficulty of what to do, or angered by his own ownership in the situation, and projects it onto you. Behind it all, it's for your nephew's benefit. You said it, "I probably should." [/ QUOTE ] Not too bad, it only cost you another ~$600 or so to get up the balls to talk to his father when your gut told you that you should originally... For his birthday, give him a payment coupon book for the missing amount spread out over the next few years and let him know that his shame can be let go of if he cleans it up... if you care about him enough to be tough on him.
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