Are large weddings worth the money?

[xxThe_Lebowskixx]

weddings are retarded. you don't even know half the people there but you are buying them a $300 dinner and open bar.

[kyleb]

when i saw kkf respond to the post i couldn't wait to see a variant of "usa sucks thailand is awesome because weddings are cheap"

boy was i disappointed

[Tweety]

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$30,000 is a lot of money. Why exactly are YOU ranting about expensive weddings? You certainly have a point though.

I got married for around $10,000 (give or take a couple grand), had 150 people attend my wedding, had an awesome DJ (and therefore great reception), good food, OPEN BAR, and a nice ceremony.

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Keep in mind the $30,000 includes my honeymoon, which was absolutely awesome (stayed at a 5 star property in Capri for 5 nights). It also includes the 5 days and nights we spent in southern Italy, also at a top notch hotel, with some day trips and lots of nice meals. The wedding itself (small service with a string quartet followed by cocktails, and then a 5 course dinner), probably cost about $2,500.

So you spent $10,000 on just one night. I spent $30,000 for 10 days in luxury in Italy. I'm not saying I did better- I'm just saying you're comparing apples and oranges.

[emon87]

For all of you that are saying that weddings are a one day thing and then are done...

You do realize that people actually derive enjoyment and happiness from the MEMORY of an event, right? A perfect wedding will be remembered for as long as you are together.


Also, saying people are dumb for spending a lot of money on a large wedding then spending $30,000 on your own wedding is completely hypocritical. Also, forcing close friends and relatives to fly and stay wherever YOU want to go, which is not cheap for them and could be a huge inconvenience is very selfish.

[guids]

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For all of you that are saying that weddings are a one day thing and then are done...

You do realize that people actually derive enjoyment and happiness from the MEMORY of an event, right? A perfect wedding will be remembered for as long as you are together.


Also, saying people are dumb for spending a lot of money on a large wedding then spending $30,000 on your own wedding is completely hypocritical. Also, forcing close friends and relatives to fly and stay wherever YOU want to go, which is not cheap for them and could be a huge inconvenience is very selfish.

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You do realize that people actually derive enjoyment and happiness from the MEMORY of an event, right? A perfect wedding will be remembered for as long as you are together.



This is what I have problem with. Do you think guys are going to remember the event more or less becuase you spent a bunch of money? Guys arent really that excited about all the crap you have to go through for a wedding, right? Wouldnt most dudes remember the wedding date just because its your wedding, and if not, I know they;d cherish it if it was low key and fun, rather than uncomfortable and lame. Do you want to marry a chick who needs all that to enjoy the day that you guys start spending your life together?

[Tweety]

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For all of you that are saying that weddings are a one day thing and then are done...

You do realize that people actually derive enjoyment and happiness from the MEMORY of an event, right? A perfect wedding will be remembered for as long as you are together.


Also, saying people are dumb for spending a lot of money on a large wedding then spending $30,000 on your own wedding is completely hypocritical. Also, forcing close friends and relatives to fly and stay wherever YOU want to go, which is not cheap for them and could be a huge inconvenience is very selfish.

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You're quite judgmental without really knowing anything about the situation. We only had 25 people, all of whom are very close to us, love traveling and love Italy in particular. They were involved in the decision-making process to do this wedding, and those who were financially challenged to do this trip were covered by us. We're a close enough family that if anyone was inconvenienced by this, it would have been apparent. Everyone had about 15 months notice and it was made abundantly clear to people that they should not feel obligated in any way to come. We insisted on no gifts, and we showered people with free dinners, gifts, and day trips on our dime the whole time we were there. We also got people very good rates at the hotel, rates they could not have gotten on their own.

The wedding worked out great and everyone who was there still talks about how much they enjoyed the experience, both to our face and to other people when we're not around.

So your comments that we are selfish for choosing this type of wedding are totally unfounded, but thanks for attempting to be fair and objective.

As for the cost, again, the 30k covers all of a 10 day trip to Italy, which included us getting married. We also paid for a couple of relatives who clearly couldn't comfortably afford the trip.

In my opinion, we got more on a dollar for dollar basis than the guy who spent $10 grand on just one night.

[gumpzilla]

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This is what I have problem with. Do you think guys are going to remember the event more or less becuase you spent a bunch of money? Guys arent really that excited about all the crap you have to go through for a wedding, right? Wouldnt most dudes remember the wedding date just because its your wedding, and if not, I know they;d cherish it if it was low key and fun, rather than uncomfortable and lame. Do you want to marry a chick who needs all that to enjoy the day that you guys start spending your life together?

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Not to mention that a VERY common refrain among the women I know who've married recently is that they remember next to nothing of the actual wedding day because they were kept busy enough.

[Leaky Eye]

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If guys were the ones with the final say in weddings, there would be no big weddings, unfortunelty we dont adn never will.

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Some guys choose to marry women that are reasonable (for women). Carrying the expectation that you are going to marry an emotional basket case wedding tyrant is a good way to do exactly that.

OP. They aren't worth it to me. Some people like big family events. Different strokes I guess. My wife and I got married on a beach in the Caribbean alone. It was romantic and memorable.

[emon87]

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For all of you that are saying that weddings are a one day thing and then are done...

You do realize that people actually derive enjoyment and happiness from the MEMORY of an event, right? A perfect wedding will be remembered for as long as you are together.


Also, saying people are dumb for spending a lot of money on a large wedding then spending $30,000 on your own wedding is completely hypocritical. Also, forcing close friends and relatives to fly and stay wherever YOU want to go, which is not cheap for them and could be a huge inconvenience is very selfish.

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You do realize that people actually derive enjoyment and happiness from the MEMORY of an event, right? A perfect wedding will be remembered for as long as you are together.



This is what I have problem with. Do you think guys are going to remember the event more or less becuase you spent a bunch of money? Guys arent really that excited about all the crap you have to go through for a wedding, right? Wouldnt most dudes remember the wedding date just because its your wedding, and if not, I know they;d cherish it if it was low key and fun, rather than uncomfortable and lame. Do you want to marry a chick who needs all that to enjoy the day that you guys start spending your life together?

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yeah, that is probably true. good point.

[guids]

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If guys were the ones with the final say in weddings, there would be no big weddings, unfortunelty we dont adn never will.

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Some guys choose to marry women that are reasonable (for women). Carrying the expectation that you are going to marry an emotional basket case wedding tyrant is a good way to do exactly that.

OP. They aren't worth it to me. Some people like big family events. Different strokes I guess. My wife and I got married on a beach in the Caribbean alone. It was romantic and memorable.

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Carrying the expectation that you are going to marry an emotional basket case wedding tyrant is a good way to do exactly that.


this is a joke. 90% of girls want a big wedding. lol @ it guaranteeing a basket case. there is a difference between a wedding tyrant, and wanting a big wedding.