DR. DOM #3: Why you shouldn't get married until you're 30

[Blarg]

Everybody always thinks they're the exception to the rule. Or that other people don't really understand, which is just another way of saying their situation is unique.

One thing about getting older is you learn again and again how often that's incorrect.

[Dominic]

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Theres only one flaw with this.

The if you shag loads of pussy before you marry you wont need new pussy so much is a fallacy imho.

However much you have shaged, new pussy is new pussy. Because we have shaged loads of pussy we know what we are missing. There will be some exprience from the past that wifey cant provide in the present.

Objective data backs my viewpoint. Divorces are up. Grandad got married at 12 and stayed married (slight exageration) and probably had no more than 3 partners tops. We shag loads (both bride and groom) before marriage thus leading to greater dissatisfaction in marriage coz we know whats out there whilst gramps and grandma were blissfully ignorant.

Basicaly the tension between the social construct of marriage and a mans biological programing = porn. Thats quite tangental but its late and I am drunk.

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I don't think I said you won't need it as much...just that you will "kno what you're missing," understand? It won't hurt as much not to get that New Pussie if you've already had your wild times. That's my point.

But I do think it's interesting what you stated....yes, porn can lead men to think they're missing something they really aren't.

[Vavavoom]

I think that by experiencing various sexual things before you settle down will help to eliminate a curiosity from developing later on in life...

Vava

[Anacardo]

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Everybody always thinks they're the exception to the rule. Or that other people don't really understand, which is just another way of saying their situation is unique.

One thing about getting older is you learn again and again how often that's incorrect.

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Sigh. Fine. Check-fold.

[Jihad]

Dr. Dom,

Please explain to me, in medical terms only, why you're the only human being alive that I'm not completely annoyed with when speaking in the third person?

-The Jihad

[Dominic]

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Dr. Dom,

Please explain to me, in medical terms only, why you're the only human being alive that I'm not completely annoyed with when speaking in the third person?

-The Jihad

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Because Dr. Dom has love for all mankind. Except psycho serial rapists, and mods.

[Blarg]

Everybody needs a different balance of illusions and realism in their lives. But realism doesn't have to be depressing. It can be liberating, by freeing you up to live in ways that are smarter and bound to be happier.

Marriage is one of those things that people sometimes mistakenly try to use to "solve" their lives. As if a life could be solved, much less perpetually and by virtue of a single discrete act. Illusions can make happiness hard.

Realistically understanding that it's nobody's job to make you happy; that no one person can provide you with everything you need and that it's selfish and immature to think they could or expect them to try; that people change and that we will change too, and that it doesn't mean that a relationship is unworkable but just that it might have to change to work in different ways; that a partner's growth is not a threat but probably a necessity if they're going to be happy -- those are all healthier and happier ways of looking forward to long-term commitments than the most gauzy fairy-tale fantasy of happy ever after. Illusion is fine, and fun, but mostly for children, and children shoudn't be getting married. It's not a bummer that illusion doesn't suffice, except for a child. For an adult, it's being realistic that puts them in the best position to be happy, and the loss of illusions about themselves and the world is something they should have mostly gone through by themselves before embroiling anyone else in their lives, and at any rate is more a relief to finally be free of than a sad thing to regret surrendering.

Casting off illusions isn't casting off optimism or hope; it's more like casting off chains.

[Dominic]

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Everybody needs a different balance of illusions and realism in their lives. But realism doesn't have to be depressing. It can be liberating, by freeing you up to live in ways that are smarter and bound to be happier.

Marriage is one of those things that people sometimes mistakenly try to use to "solve" their lives. As if a life could be solved, much less perpetually and by virtue of a single discrete act. Illusions can make happiness hard.

Realistically understanding that it's nobody's job to make you happy; that no one person can provide you with everything you need and that it's selfish and immature to think they could or expect them to try; that people change and that we will change too, and that it doesn't mean that a relationship is unworkable but just that it might have to change to work in different ways; that a partner's growth is not a threat but probably a necessity if they're going to be happy -- those are all healthier and happier ways of looking forward to long-term commitments than the most gauzy fairy-tale fantasy of happy ever after. Illusion is fine, and fun, but mostly for children, and children shoudn't be getting married. It's not a bummer that illusion doesn't suffice, except for a child. For an adult, it's being realistic that puts them in the best position to be happy, and the loss of illusions about themselves and the world is something they should have mostly gone through by themselves before embroiling anyone else in their lives, and at any rate is more a relief to finally be free of than a sad thing to regret surrendering.

Casting off illusions isn't casting off optimism or hope; it's more like casting off chains.

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nicely put.

[Frogic]

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Objective data backs my viewpoint. Divorces are up. Grandad got married at 12 and stayed married (slight exageration) and probably had no more than 3 partners tops. We shag loads (both bride and groom) before marriage thus leading to greater dissatisfaction in marriage coz we know whats out there whilst gramps and grandma were blissfully ignorant.


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Grandad/mom didn't stay married because they didn't know how good new pussy is. New pussy has been an issue for mankind since day one. They stayed married because there used to be massive social pressures(church/townsfolk) forcing people to remain in unhappy marriages.

Also divorces are a lot easier. Atleast in Canada you can draw a direct correlation between the establishment of no fault divorces, and a huge spike in the divorce rate. If I remember the numbers(this is from an essay I wrote in a terrible social science class) haven't really seriously incrased since.

My point is that people have always had the same problems(the human condition doesn't really change) the only thing that has changed is that people now have the opportunity to live a happier life than they once did.

Frogic

[jaxUp]

blarg,

you rock.