Girlfriends going to parties without you - advice?

[Caldarooni]

Mars,

You should bang other people too.

[Barfunkel]

Maybe you suck at partying?

Maybe she's ashamed of you? (For example, it might be a party where most people dress fashionably and your only suit is from a thrift shop, not Versace)

Maybe you don't behave that well when you're drunk?

Maybe she just wants to go alone? It's not like a couple is supposed to be together all the time, they are supposed to have their own hobbies and friends too. When you go to the local bar to play pool and drink beer do you invite her every time?

[z28dreams]

Her going to parties without you is ok, but she should at least let you know.

("I just want to hang out with the girls, I just want to catch up with some other friends, etc".)

Don't be insecure, but don't also be an idiot.

[guids]

Your relationship is not that close or commited. You are pretty much a tool. Why arent you asking her about this? We dont know what the [censored] shes thinking. Express your concerns to her, the person who can give you a good answer on what the [censored] is going on. Did you guys who have women problems skip pre-school and kindegarten?

[Dave G.]

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Did you guys who have women problems skip pre-school and kindegarten?

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I don't know how schools work in America, but over here, we don't learn how to be smooth, suave ladies men in pre-school or kindergarten. Some guys have things like crappy dads who never taught them anything.

[xwillience]

my two closest friends were a couple. guy and girl couple. they were the most secure people ive really ever met. they could do their own stuff, go out to parties, find themselves in situations other people would OBVIOUSLY find inappropriate. but they were okay with it. She was more of the wild one. on nights when she would go out "with the girls" i would be the DD because i wasnt 21. So between 2-4 AM i get to call and some of the stories were amazing. "out with the girls" my ass.

What Dave G. said about having guys hit on her is 100% true.

heres a conversation I had with her one night:

Me: Did you guys have fun?
Her: oh yeah, we always have fun.
Me: cool.
Her: I got up and danced on a bar with a bunch of fat chicks. (the chick im talking to is easily an 8)
Me: Awesome.
Her: And i made out with Jessica (her best friend)
Me: seriously?
Her: yeah, Jess wanted to and I didnt really mind.
Me: .....
Her: i dont know why, i think i just like to get the boys wound up.
Me: your kind of a bitch, huh.
Her: yeah. is my boyfriend awake? (we were all roommates)
Me: no, he went to bed a couple hours ago.
Her: good.

[El Diablo]

mars,

Time for a new gf who really is close and committed.

[xwillience]

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Did you guys who have women problems skip pre-school and kindegarten?

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I don't know how schools work in America, but over here, we don't learn how to be smooth, suave ladies men in pre-school or kindergarten. Some guys have things like crappy dads who never taught them anything.

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not a crappy dad but my dad was a long haul trucker for all of my teenage years 11-19 before i started to see him on a regular basis. well just say im on a bit of a learning curve.

[Villainaire]

Tell her to have fun.

[gorie]

i've been with my bf forever and basically never leave the house , and don't drink or party - but if some day i decided i want to go to a party without him i'd expect him to be ok with that. i mean, if i end up hooking up with someone i'd tell him about it while we're doin' it later, anyway. i'm completely trust worthy.

if it bothers you why don't you talk to her about it ? i mean, don't get too worried about it until you have a reason to. maybe she just needs to feel like her own person once and awhile. she might not have thought it was a big deal.