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#22
09-15-2007, 12:13 AM
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Re: Friend that\'s a girl expects me to pay for drinks, awkwardness ens
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Why go out with her in the first place if you are not physically attracted to her? [/ QUOTE ] I'm amazed it took 20 posts for this question to come up. 
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#23
09-15-2007, 12:15 AM
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Re: Friend that\'s a girl expects me to pay for drinks, awkwardness ens
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[ QUOTE ] Why go out with her in the first place if you are not physically attracted to her? [/ QUOTE ] I'm amazed it took 20 posts for this question to come up. [/ QUOTE ] because sometimes men and women hang out just to have a good time? i mean i have several female friends that i drink with regularly. i wouldn't be that likely to go out for a drink with someone i don't know well or didn't just leave work with or something, but i also have to travel a lot farther than OP to get to any good bars.
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#24
09-15-2007, 12:20 AM
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Re: Friend that\'s a girl expects me to pay for drinks, awkwardness ens
How bout the honest approach?
"I'm pretty broke right due to reasons XYZ, sorry i can't pick this up" Also, i'm weirded out that a woman your having casual dinner with is expecting a free meal. Is this standard? Most of the women i hung with as friends woudln't pull this and if they did i'd be like "WTF are you doing? What am i your boyfriend? Get your purse out."
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#25
09-15-2007, 12:33 AM
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Re: Friend that\'s a girl expects me to pay for drinks, awkwardness ens
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How bout the honest approach? "I'm pretty broke right due to reasons XYZ, sorry i can't pick this up" [/ QUOTE ] This is a terrible play. It states that OP feels he should pick up the check but is incapable due to his inability to perform that oh so critical manly task of making money. NT said it best: [ QUOTE ] one of two things happened here 1. she likes you 2. she called you because she wanted someone to buy her drinks and thought you might do it [/ QUOTE ] And we really can't know which without knowing the girl. J
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#26
09-15-2007, 12:45 AM
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Re: Friend that\'s a girl expects me to pay for drinks, awkwardness ens
She invites you out then expects you to pay? This is a huge douchebag move. You are not the one with something to be embarrassed about.
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#27
09-15-2007, 12:45 AM
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Re: Friend that\'s a girl expects me to pay for drinks, awkwardness ensues.
OP, you are too picky. Remember, it's all pink on the inside. She was hitting on you; split the bill, and then split her if you know what I mean.
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09-15-2007, 01:49 AM
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Re: Friend that\'s a girl expects me to pay for drinks, awkwardness ens
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How bout the honest approach? "I'm pretty broke right due to reasons XYZ, sorry i can't pick this up" Also, i'm weirded out that a woman your having casual dinner with is expecting a free meal. Is this standard? Most of the women i hung with as friends woudln't pull this and if they did i'd be like "WTF are you doing? What am i your boyfriend? Get your purse out." [/ QUOTE ] To clear this up a little, we are not very good friends, but I think the fact that she got [censored]-canned makes her feel like she needs to keep in touch to talk [censored] about other people that work there. I don't know, this was the first time I'd ever hung out with her outside of work. But when she asked me, I was still engaged. I have a feeling she thought I would pick up the check since she's effectively unemployed (even though she's freelancing and probably getting paid more than me).
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#30
09-15-2007, 01:54 AM
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Re: Friend that\'s a girl expects me to pay for drinks, awkwardness ensues.
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OK, so as documented in a previous thread, I recently broke up with my fiance, and as such I'm stuck with an apartment that's far beyond my means. I'm paying ~53% of my take-home income on the apartment, and that's without utilities, cable, etc. Anyway, bottom line is I'm pretty poor for the time being. A girl who was fired from my company about a month ago e-mailed me asking if I wanted to go to happy hour. I work in the financial district in NYC, which is a pretty expensive place to go out. And let me note - I'm not interested in this girl physically whatsoever. So we meet up for happy hour, get about four rounds and some food. I ask her if we should get the check, she says yeah, but maybe we can stop somewhere on the way home, and she'll buy me a drink. This might not come across that well in type, but she was basically insinuating that she expects me to pick up this bill (which is about $80). I sit there for about a minute, because I don't know how to react. Do I just eat it and pay the bill? Or do I say something? Eventually I say, [b] "Oh, I can't let you pick up both tabs. It was kind enough for you to invite me out to drinks. I insist that I get the tab for a drink on the way home?" And then basically it's really awkward for her...[b] [/ QUOTE ] Fixed your situation...
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