When to meet the parents? Do I have issues?

[blinden84]

half Chinese? whats the other half?

[GiantWalleye]

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my mom's not even old school korean. she speaks fluent english. has lived in the u.s. since she was in college. interacts with crackas all the time.



Im quite white, but that is still funny stuff.




then if that goes well, BAM 3 some with your gf and your mom.

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Thats just wrong, maybe not in Korea, but where I am from (Minnesota) thats just wrong. [img]/images/graemlins/laugh.gif[/img]


For the OP, I am not real familiar with asain culture being I'm white and from MN. But I think you should just take some time to sit down with your mom, explain to her that you like this girl (white surfer chic) and that she wants to meet you. If it makes you happy, your mom should be happy. If not explain it to your GF and hope she doesn't get mad [img]/images/graemlins/tongue.gif[/img]

[AbreuTime]

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I never really thought that my seperation of family and personal life was that big of a deal, but I guess I'm wrong.


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Your family should be part of your personal life. If you are in any kind of serious relationship with a girl, you should want to share it with your family. I have a hard time believing you are close with your mom if you don't want her to meet the girls you date. No offense is meant by that, but I think it is important for my girlfriends to meet my family (I have 3 siblings).

I am under the impression you are living are your own, so invite your mom and significant other to your place for dinner. If you are deathly scared of your mom and gf meeting, then frame it differently. Invite a few other close friends, and tell your mom that you'd like her to meet some of your friends. With more people, there is less chance of forced/awkward/dead conversation.

[Go_Blue88]

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Is this your mother's house?



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ha i was thinking that too.

OP if your mom is so important to you then I'd assume that you're important to her too; therefore, she prolly wants to meet your girlfriends. my mom asks me about my girlfriend every week when i call home.

[SackUp]

Meeting parents should not be such a big deal.

My parents would probably meet more of my girlfriends had I lived closer by - to me it is like bringing any other friend over to my house - I do it all the time.

Who doesn't like a home cooked meal??

[Spellmen]

You're in love with your mom and afraid the girls won't meet her expectations. Have sex with your mother or go to a therapist

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oddjob's advice is spot on, pop in is perfect for chinese parents, don't give to much time for akwardness. A few more then you can have more casual drop arounds, I totally understand they seperation. I dated a Chinese born Australian girl for 4yrs I never had a formal dinner with her parents but I dropped around alot. They just did the standard feed me until I burst drill every time.

I had yumcha with them a few times though.

[steel108]

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half Chinese? whats the other half?

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German

[blinden84]

so you are half white?

I must REALLY be missing something here.

[captZEEbo]

wow

nothing wrong with meeting parents after a few weeks to a month. It's not like: this is the time where my parents judge if it's okay to marry. Like, here's some people that are important to my life, meet them.