Love a girl but there is a dilemma - Page 3

Speedlimits · #1 10-30-2006, 09:05 PM

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In all seriousness, please recognize that you will not feel this way about her after X-years. Also, I do believe that there are soul mates, tons and tons of them.

Your reply raises a question that I think highlights some very real concerns. Where do you rate yourself, where do you rate her and where does she rate herself and you in your relationship? At or near equal has to be the answer for all, otherwise the unequal dynamics will overwhelm one of you.

How old are you? If you are over 27 and you want to spend the rest of your life with this woman, I would consider disregarding the std. But, if you are under that age, I would let her go. Good luck with whatever you decide.

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Why do ages even matter? That seems a bit arbitrary to assign some random age as the cutoff as to whether I stay with her or not.

madnak · #2 10-30-2006, 08:56 PM

Do you care about her?

I mean, Propertarian's post was great, but screw the science.

Are you looking at her as a rare prize or do you care about her?

Anyhow, just have very safe sex and it's entirely possible you won't contract it any time before you break up.

Speedlimits · #3 10-30-2006, 09:00 PM

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Do you care about her?

I mean, Propertarian's post was great, but screw the science.

Are you looking at her as a rare prize or do you care about her?

Anyhow, just have very safe sex and it's entirely possible you won't contract it any time before you break up.

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No I care about her a lot. I think I'm going to go for it and just wear condoms until I feel ready.

guesswest · #4 10-30-2006, 09:13 PM

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Are you looking at her as a rare prize or do you care about her?

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Have to admit I was thinking the same when reading the OP. But I think the answer on the herpes question is the same regardless.

Speedlimits · #5 10-30-2006, 09:14 PM

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Are you looking at her as a rare prize or do you care about her?

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Have to admit I was thinking the same when reading the OP. But I think the answer on the herpes question is the same regardless.

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She's in "my league." If that's what you're getting at. But yeah I posted it in the OOT forum, thanks for your replies.

vhawk01 · #6 10-30-2006, 08:51 PM

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Unless you are ugly as sin with a 1" micro-penis, you should leave her and find someone else. There is no such thing as "the one", there are many "the ones". Further, no matter how much in love you are today, I guarantee that you will not feel the same way 5-years from now and you will regret and very likely resent her for the "gift" that she is about to give you.

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Congrats on the worst post in the thread. Taboo as it may be...ITS FREAKING TEH HERP. Who cares? Its not that big of a deal, honestly, and yes, you can just use condoms until you are married/dont want to anymore/are committed. The whole time I was reading this thread I was thinking "This had better be HIV" and then I find out its herpes. I guess thats better than like syph or the clap or something, but seriously, theres a good chance you are gonna get herpes anyway. I wouldnt let this impact your decision in any real way.

Edit: You cant get herpes from SIIHP. ITS A MEDICAL FACT.

BPA234 · #7 10-30-2006, 09:26 PM

Thanks. I agree that I may have been crass. But, the point is valid. If the op doesn't believe that he has any potential for future prospects than he could factor that into his decision. Although, that would raise several other issues. Other than that, he should move on.

Genital herpes is serious and is definitely a big deal.

http://www.femail.com.au/genitalherpes.htm

Speedlimits · #8 10-30-2006, 09:30 PM

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Thanks. I agree that I may have been crass. But, the point is valid. If the op doesn't believe that he has any potential for future prospects than he could factor that into his decision. Although, that would raise several other issues. Other than that, he should move on.

Genital herpes is serious and is definitely a big deal.

http://www.femail.com.au/genitalherpes.htm

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Well I definitely believe I can get other girls but I find it hard to believe any would be as the one I have now. Let alone even if I did find a girl that is as good, that she would be into me as much as I'm into her. All of that needs to be in the equation.

BPA234 · #9 10-30-2006, 09:43 PM

Speed:

Go to several herpes 2 sites and research the disease. There is little to no accurate info in this thread. After you fully understand the price you will very likely pay, you can at least make an educated and informed decision.

Regarding my original reply, I apologize if I was flip in any way. I honestly thought you were screwing around and that other people responding were just fueling the joke.

But, please note that I stand behind my post. If you leave this girl and move onto others, you will find another girl who is as good or better than who you are with now. I would only consider disregarding the std if I were going to spend the rest of my life with this woman and I was so in love with her that I couldn't live without her.

If you contract this std, you will be affected for life. If you then break up with this girl, you will be left with the consequences of this disease for the rest of your life. New relationships, jobs, insurance will all be affected by your std.

I would not make this decision lightly.

Sephus · #10 10-30-2006, 09:43 PM

thanks for ambushing us with the inline pic [censored].