"catch and release" flirting

[gumpzilla]

There's a girl I know who is dating an acquaintance of mine. She is among the most attractive women I've known. (Sorry, no pics will be forthcoming. If you want a mental image, in my opinion she looks quite a bit like Maria Ozawa of the OOT Japanese porn star thread fame, but slightly less busty.) We tend to have a dynamic at this point of getting pretty flirty at parties after a couple of drinks. Some of this is in the eyes of the observer, obviously, but I seem to end up the target of these games a lot more than other people.

Now, she's dating a guy and is moving in a few weeks, and I'm engaged, so nothing will happen. And I don't want anything to happen, but, there's definitely a substantial part of me that wants to believe that in a parallel universe where my fiancee did not exist, I could get with this woman. Because, to reiterate, she is hot, hot, hot, and the whole thing seems like some kind of vindication of my inner stud busting through seven layers of nerdishness. While there's some decent evidence to suggest this is the case, in some sense I would like to know The Truth. However, trying to figure that out seems near impossible, as I think people are suspicious of the idea of "If I wasn't involved, I'd like to do you," typically parsing it more as "I'd like to do you."

I was conveying this to my roommate at some point, and his response was "Catch and release!" That pretty much captures exactly what I had in mind with this whole thing. He then went on to say, "I think the world would be a better place if there were some socially recognized way of expressing that type of attraction. Like if you could boil the whole thing down to a single verb that would encapsulate it." What do you guys think?