White guy attempting to date Korean woman. Help, plz, k thx.

[guids]

hahahaha...just watch waynes world.

[MicroBob]

Okay, lets say you go to France and you speak French decently enough and you start dating a French girl who doesn't know a damn bit of English.

After a date or two she comes up and says in really lousy english, "Hi, how are you today" and is all proud of herself.

Would her doing this have absolutely ANYTHING to do with your attraction to her?

My guess is probably not.

My advice is to not worry about the language thing.
If things progress then maybe you can start to learn her language a little bit if you think it would be kind of fun and/or bonding.

Ask her questions about her language or culture and how things are different if it seems an appropriate conversation.
But don't be so intimidated by the fact that she's from somewhere else that you are really afraid of offending her somehow. Just be yourself.

[emon87]

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http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kancho

That honestly, is the strangest thing I've ever read.

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LOL:

[Blarg]

I am afraid to read the wiki links:

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* Kancho.org - A site devoted to kancho.
* Kancho NO! - A site promoting the anti-Kancho philosophy.
* Gaijin Smash - A series of editorials written by an American language teacher living in Kyoto, Japan, including many thwarted multiple-kancho attempts (formerly Outpostnine - I am a Japanese School Teacher)


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[mak15]

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Okay, lets say you go to France and you speak French decently enough and you start dating a French girl who doesn't know a damn bit of English.

After a date or two she comes up and says in really lousy english, "Hi, how are you today" and is all proud of herself.

Would her doing this have absolutely ANYTHING to do with your attraction to her?


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i would really like this.

[MikeHoncho]

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Okay, lets say you go to France and you speak French decently enough and you start dating a French girl who doesn't know a damn bit of English.

After a date or two she comes up and says in really lousy english, "Hi, how are you today" and is all proud of herself.

Would her doing this have absolutely ANYTHING to do with your attraction to her?

My guess is probably not.

My advice is to not worry about the language thing.
If things progress then maybe you can start to learn her language a little bit if you think it would be kind of fun and/or bonding.

Ask her questions about her language or culture and how things are different if it seems an appropriate conversation.
But don't be so intimidated by the fact that she's from somewhere else that you are really afraid of offending her somehow. Just be yourself.

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I agree wholeheartedly with Microbob. Don't try too hard on the learning Korean/Cantonese thing. Sounds like she is more interested in learning english from you anyway.

[miami32]

Where do you get the idea that she is interested in learning english from me? I don't think I really said that in the post, and I don't get the vibe from her. When we talked, and we talked for like 3-4 hours, she just told me about her family, what she was doing in America, and some of her goals. She goes to school for that. I think learning her dialect shows an interest in her. She seems to have a lot of pride in her heritage, and it shows i actually pay attention to what she said and I'm not all like oh you have a dope body can i touch it lolz.

While I understand exactly where microbob is coming from, i think it's different from a female perspective.

[Blarg]

Honestly, I think you're overthinking this. Just being yourself while still being cool to her should be fine. If you put too much planning into things, especially so early, it can come off looking like you're desperate or trying too hard.

[JACK CUST]

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http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kancho

That honestly, is the strangest thing I've ever read.

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http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Happy_Corner
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Boong-Ga_Boong-Ga

Well.

[oddjob]

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Place your palms together and make a gun with your index fingers. Walk up behind her and jam the barrel of said gun into her anus.

Then eat kimchee.

The twin pillars of Korean culture.

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