Girls refusing to move in with a guy without a ring

[kyleb]

My girlfriend is demanding a ring; we live together. The relationship is strained because of this. I work a lot (60-80 hours a week in the office), it's the #1 priority right now, not sure I want to commit to being married, etc.

Being able to resolve this problem while not living together would be a lot easier than if we hadn't already moved in together. She doesn't like living with me while we're not engaged, apparently.

[Skoob]

Here's what happened with me:

GF said no way to living together without being married. Being engaged didn't even count. So I said, fine, wtf, lets get married then. I was 21. We've been married 12 years. Our 13th is in a month.

You don't wait for the right one. You pick the one and make it right.

[Your Mom]

I agree with the chick.

[Cubswin]

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Clearly he has to respect her wishes, but is she being unreasonable?

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No.

[Jimbo]

Many jewelry stores now have a "If she says no poilcy, you may return the ring". Buy the ring, discover she leaves the toilet lid down and refuses to recap the toothpaste then return the ring.

Jimbo

[[Phill]]

Jimbo,

Nothing wrong with her leaving the toilet seat down, ive just never got that 'we' arent allowed to leave it up.

[Lonhro]

The girl in this situation is being too demanding.

There is nothing wrong with moving in without being engaged. In fact, even though they apparently spend 6 out of 7 nights a week together, moving in might find out some little problems in their relationship that they otherwise wouldn't know about until they are engaged, if she has her way.

There is two options here for the dude - 1) convince her to move in together without getting engaged but reassure the girl that this doesn't mean he won't marry her in the future and he certainly still does love her, or 2) don't move in. Getting engaged should not be an option here.

[pergesu]

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The girl in this situation is being too demanding.

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How? She's said that there's no rush to get engaged.

It's one thing if she threatens to dump him if he doesn't propose. It's another thing entirely to say they shouldn't live together unless they're engaged.

There's no one answer here, it'll vary based on the couple. She's being perfectly reasonable here though. And it's just as reasonable for him to not propose.

[RunDownHouse]

trapsetter,

Have you ever lived with a gf? There's a pretty big difference between spending weekends together and living together.

[Lonhro]

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but that she won't move in under any circumstances if they are not engaged.

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I understand that she said there is no rush to get engaged. This is good. What isn't good is her not realising that moving in could only be good for the relationship - there are absolutely no negatives to come out of moving in prior to getting engaged - there are only a crapload of positives.

My take anyway.