Ask me about breaking my engagement (and why maybe you should too)

[tpir]

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you'd think that it would be so rare to meet the perfect person.. so why does almost everyone get married? people just don't want to admit they made a mistake i guess. pretty common phenomenon

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Social anxiety? I am really not sure. I feel like a lot of my married friends made mistakes (small ones though), but they will all talk until they are blue in the face about how they "can't even imagine being with anyone else." I am starting to think it's all a big delusion that our brains put on to make us pump out babies, but I am open to being wrong.

[luckyjimm]

Eh, why did you ever propose to her, then? I mean, where did this urge to get married come from? Why not just keep pedalling along nicely in a kind-of-sucks but kind-of-okay relationship? Then one day you coulda broken up with no big deal.

[mbillie1]

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But do we really *need* this for a successful relationship? Or is it our balls yelling at us and telling us to go out and be promiscuous?

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We're physical creatures, we live through our bodies, physical intimacy is the most explicitly restricted behavior in monogamous relationships... yeah we need it, it's way more important than we're willing to admit, because our society is full of this BS puritan guilt and shame over lust, sexuality, etc. Whether we "should" or "shouldn't" is irrelevant... you might as well ask whether we "should" get angry when we get punched, or need to eat food.

[otnemem]

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Eh, why did you ever propose to her, then? I mean, where did this urge to get married come from? Why not just keep pedalling along nicely in a kind-of-sucks but kind-of-okay relationship? Then one day you coulda broken up with no big deal.

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Because I have serious issues with compulsion and making irrational, impulsive decisions. In this case, it served sort of as a false reinforcement: If I propose, then I know I love her.

[mason55]

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So then what? On to the next girl? That is how our cousins in the jungle roll but I am not sure that is a good thing.

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nm, post deleted dont want to get banned.

[diddyeinstein]

I start to realize how wrong this wedding would be - that I've just stuck myself in this relationship of comfort and convenience


I'm starting to think that this is all marriage is. Finding someone that you don't hate to be around too much. Any thoughts from the married OOTers?

[daryn]

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So then what? On to the next girl? That is how our cousins in the jungle roll but I am not sure that is a good thing.

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nm, post deleted dont want to get banned.

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that's it. you are soooo banned.

[hoyasnaxa]

my brother has you beat, he broke up with his gf for another gf, is paying for the house he had with his ex, also pays for an apartment he doesnt live in because he lives with the new girl, where he also pays rent. He is paying rent on 3 places, and lives in only 1 of them.

[daryn]

if by "has you beat" you meant "is a much larger idiot than you" then yes your brother has him beat.

(not that OP is an idiot)

[otnemem]

Yes, I guess I am beat.