this girl is being ridiculous, right?

[the crabs]

Something very similar happened to my good friend.

My buddys gf's friends parents were divorced, so she mostly lived with her father in MN (we live in IL). She came back for a weekend after not seeing my buddys gf for about 4 months. My buddy and his gf have been dating for about 3 weeks up until this point, and was doing everything he could to make them happy.

He would drive them anywhere they wanted to go, buying them things and catering to them hand and foot. The night winded down and my buddys gf told him to leave and she got out with her freind and went to sleep at her house.

My buddy being totally pissed off right now called up his friend (me included), and had a little get together. After some beer, shots, and screwdrivers we were pretty drunk. Some phonecalls were made to some babes and they arrived shortly after. My buddy was making out with chicks left and right, fingering, dry humping and other forms of adolescent behavior.

Some people took pics and when he found out, he grew the biggest [censored] smile I've ever seen. He went to his gf's house. jumped on the bed they were both sleeping on and started to rub on both of them. They got pissed off and asked him what the [censored] he was doing and this was his responce...

"Damn, you bitches aren't like the girls I was partying with earlier" to which he threw the pics on the bed and walked out of her house laughing.

In regards to OP,

No, don't sleep on the couch, tell her that your friends are going to the casino and maybe go drinking afterwards. If she says no, then demand the bed. If she says no one more time, do what my buddy did.

Good Luck.

[xorbie]

From friend's POV, she probably doesn't see her best friend very often, she's coming into town and she wants to talk about girl [censored] all night long together instead of listening to you bone her. Particularly given that she doesn't like you all that much, it's not really *that* ridiculous. It's one weekend.

Tell the gf it's lame but you understand. Maybe meet up for a drink or something (friend might be less bitchy drunk) but besides that you'll stay out of their way. Try to spend as little time as possible at your gf's place not really doing much. This places the "blame" on the gf's friend, shows you understand the gf is an annoying spot but makes you the good guy, but at the same time by not spending time with her, you show her you're not just going to put up with [censored].

[gumpzilla]

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They can talk about girl [censored] all night long without having to share a bed and sleep together. The thing that strikes me as being ridiculous about the whole thing is the 14 year old slumber party aspect more than anything else.

[xorbie]

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From friend's POV, she probably doesn't see her best friend very often, she's coming into town and she wants to talk about girl [censored] all night long together instead of listening to you bone her.

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They can talk about girl [censored] all night long without having to share a bed and sleep together. The thing that strikes me as being ridiculous about the whole thing is the 14 year old slumber party aspect more than anything else.

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They're women. This is what women do. There's always the gay if you want alternatives.

[The once and future king]

Most of the advice in this thread is crushingly immature/insecure.

Just sleep on the couch or hang out with your mates, whats the big deal? Trust me your relationship will face much bigger issues than this.

Maybe because I am an English gent, but it dosnt seem unreasonable to accommodate the female guest and man up and sleep on the couch, that is the masculine thing to do, not throw a insecure hissy fit because your GF would rather share her bed with her friend for one night.

However it is important that you maximise leverage gained via your act of self sacrifice and chivalry. If you have skillz you will appear to accept the sleeping on the couch graciuosly but at the same time gain relationship capital to be traded in at some point in the future.

Turning this into an insensitive insecure territorial dispute is just ham fisted and to be frank a bit childish.

[ballin4life]

There is a HUGE difference between the girlfriend suggesting it and the girlfriend's friend demanding it. If the girlfriend suggested it, then OP should just sleep on the couch/at his own place and shouldn't be angry. It's the fact that the girlfriend's friend, a guest, demanded this sleeping arrangement that should anger OP. Also there is a huge differnce between the girlfriend's friend demanding this and the girlfirend's friend asking politely for this and the girlfriend relaying it to OP.

[Aloysius]

Just a reminder:

OP likes his girlfriend alot, and would like to maintain a healthy, happy relationship with her.

Lotta dick-waving going on in this thread...

-Al

[schwza]

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hahahahhah.

[Klompy]

As stupid as the request by the friend is, it's not a big enough deal to get worked up about.

[Jauerback]

[censored] that. Make sure to kick your girlfriend's ass to the couch along with her friend if she agrees with this.