Kinda cheated on gf...bit of a moral dilemma.

[You're No Daisy]

Dude...you're not married! Let it go. She's probably done the same thing. Believe me, it happens. If you marry the chick, don't cheat. If there's no ring on her finger, you can do whatever you want.

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I think cheating is as bad as its consequences. If she doesn't find out or wouldn't care much, the cheat > guilt, and you treat her same or better, what's the problem?

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To those saying cheating is wrong because if she found out she'd be hurt, well, does that mean thinking your wife/girlfriend is getting fat is wrong? She'd be upset if she ever found out. Okay, so thinking and doing are different, sure. Is jacking off to donkey porn behind her back wrong? I know my girlfriend would be upset if she ever found out about my extensive horse porn masturbation obsession, but I'm going to keep doing it because I like it damnit.

I'm just wondering if everyone thinks full disclosure about everything is good once you're married, or if people think you need to keep some things to yourself. Or if you're supposed to not do anything that upsets your wife, regardless of what it is.

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terrible anology for obvious reason: Your wife/gf getting fat hurts you, thinking she needs to put down the sandwich and pick up a gym membership is an equal and opposite reaction to her action.

[boomshakalaka]

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I think cheating is as bad as its consequences. If she doesn't find out or wouldn't care much, the cheat > guilt, and you treat her same or better, what's the problem?

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read my second to last post in this thread (not counting this one ldo)

[tisthefire]

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you just made out with the girl? Dont tell your girlfreind. But cut that crap out.

Theres a % that could be assigned to the chance she finds out, this number will never be known because there are too many factors, but there certainly is a number and its >0. So pretty much how long it takes for her to find out of if she finds out at all is just left up to variance. So even if she never finds out, you still hurt her, ducy?

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[JOOO]

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Hmm, I dont really know what to tell you, but heres an interesting fact:

1 in 5,000 North Atlantic lobsters are born bright blue.

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pics plz

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you guys are retarded... everyone knows lobstern turn red AFTER you cook them

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I think cheating is as bad as its consequences. If she doesn't find out or wouldn't care much, the cheat > guilt, and you treat her same or better, what's the problem?

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read my second to last post in this thread (not counting this one ldo)

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No, she's not hurt until she finds out. That's like saying there's .0000000001% chance that an asteroid will hit you, which is all up to variance, so you are hurt no matter what....This is faulty logic. Assigning p's is just a means of weighing the value of decisions.

[ClevelandWasp]

Been married seven years and can't imagine going through all the trouble of planning, keeping the other girl quiet, keeping my story straight etc. for an hour or two of the sex. That would have to be some really great sex. SIIHP and then some. Am I just the laziest man in BBV4Life?

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Been married seven years and can't imagine going through all the trouble of planning, keeping the other girl quiet, keeping my story straight etc. for an hour or two of the sex. That would have to be some really great sex. SIIHP and then some. Am I just the laziest man in BBV4Life?

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well I imagine that to some people this is like a hobby. They enjoy the sneaking around and planning just as much or more than the actual cheating. Its like living out a double agent spy story.

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I think cheating is as bad as its consequences. If she doesn't find out or wouldn't care much, the cheat > guilt, and you treat her same or better, what's the problem?

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read my second to last post in this thread (not counting this one ldo)

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No, she's not hurt until she finds out. That's like saying there's .0000000001% chance that an asteroid will hit you, which is all up to variance, so you are hurt no matter what....This is faulty logic. Assigning p's is just a means of weighing the value of decisions.

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Ok I can see how you countered that and while I dont exactly agree you do make a good point. Still, your example is crappy since you are not the cause of the asteriod in the first place. You were right, the statistics only help us make future decisions, we would clearly never decide to set an asteroid in motion that has a trajectory that could possibly intersect with the earth. But w/e heres another example that doesnt use a possibly faulty analogy:

Maybe she never ever finds out, but just gets suspicious for some reason. Possibly she just thinks you smell different when you come home, or act a little different, something subtle that she cant put her finger on. Its possible that she might get these suspicions whether you cheat or not, but now that you have, any distress that you cause you become accountable for. Things that could tip her off can very well be subconscious, and even though she never has proof and never brings it up, this can cause her a great deal of pain.


and still no one has countered the point about putting your partner at risk of stds when they believe they are in a wholly monogamous relationship.

Its selfish and lame. Grow up, stop doing this crap.