DR. DOM #3: Why you shouldn't get married until you're 30

[wiseheart]

Dom,

Well put.

Just wanted to add that marriage for younger
people is often about trying to capture that
moment of happiness and spread it out forever.
Which does not happen.

Im 21, and been straightforward w/my gf of 1/2
year that I wasn't getting married b4 30 if at
all. She was pissed for a week, and then got
over it and realized it was dumb to think about
marriage at this time.

[Dan BRIGHT]

How do I let people know that I'm a high roller without outright saying it?

[Dominic]

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I got married at 38. That was almost too late.

I love my wife, but I also loved my freedom; and, as she put it, not having to answer to anybody for 20 years.

Handing my freedom in was hard. Our marriage hung by a thread for the first couple of years. I was [censored] miserable.

Don't get married before 30?

OK.

Don't wait until 40, though.

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sorry, I don't buy this at all...your hang ups were your hange ups...when I was engaged I certainly didn't think of it as "giving up my freedom," I thought of it as sharing my life.

[Dominic]

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Dom,

Well put.

Just wanted to add that marriage for younger
people is often about trying to capture that
moment of happiness and spread it out forever.
Which does not happen.

Im 21, and been straightforward w/my gf of 1/2
year that I wasn't getting married b4 30 if at
all. She was pissed for a week, and then got
over it and realized it was dumb to think about
marriage at this time.

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very nice...you've definitely got it going on then...i wish i was as sure of myself at your age.

[Sluss]

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I think that by experiencing various sexual things before you settle down will help to eliminate a curiosity from developing later on in life...


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I've found this not to be true. I had a lot of crazy times in my early twenties (threesomes, one night stands, girls who were really into videos with their friends that I could shoot). Got married in my late twenties, have been very happily married for two years, but even now when some 21 year old is hitting on me, all I can think of is how can I score. I don't and I have found that most of the fun is the chase. The actual crazy acts are fine. But getting a girl to hit on you when you can care less is a damn good feeling. I can still get laid whenever I want, by my wife. That urge is gone.

One thing I have always found is that there are very few girls that suprise you in bed. Most of the time you have a better vision of what's going to happen. Plus, girls who you are looking to just score with almost never live up to the hype of your own mind. Maybe I'll a little too creative, it's possible, but the girls who are a huge suprise in bed are the ones that you have to spend some time wooing. I've done that, I'm good.

I fully agree with Dom. Though 30 is a bit arbitrary. If I got married at 21 I would have been nuts by now. Just wondering what I could have done. Instead I sowed some oats, got married and just kept being myself. I do really suggest marrying a girl who thinks it's cool that other women hit on you and trusts you enough not to bang them. [img]/images/graemlins/cool.gif[/img]

[Wynton]

Though I think it's great to delay marriage until you're 30 if possible, there are plenty of good reasons why this can't always work.

I married at 28 because I was quite confident I had met the right person, we were virtually married anyway (having lived together for years) and her biological clock was ticking (as she was a couple of years older).

Now, I have always regretted that I didn't get to play the field longer before meeting my eventual wife. Yet, I also have to realize that I was never that type anyway. If you're the monagamous type who is not really capable of having a Dom-like life of fun and adventure, then committing to marriage a little earlier is not a mistake.

On the other hand, even I would never have considered getting married while in college, or straight out of college. Those few years afterwards seem very significant to me now.

[cwsiggy]

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yes, even all the porn chicks you might have had the opportunity to boink, that's what.

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I hate you [img]/images/graemlins/smile.gif[/img]

[trickymartin]

You can't go wrong taking dating advice from guy who banged Jenna Jameson.

[GreywolfNYC]

I fixed the title for you, Dom.

[swede123]

Dom:

I think you are correct in generality, though I do agree that there are many people that are exceptions to your rule. For example, I went to a Christian college where many people got together and got married way before 30, and I'd venture a guess that most of these folks have solid, sound marriages that will last forever. Lots of people knock Christianity and its values, but at least a majority of these types of people that I know take these values seriously enough that once they take the wedding plunge that's pretty much a never-ending commitment.

That being said, since I'm such a sleazy bastard I ended up waiting until I was 29 and four months (close enough, right) and I feel this was a good thing for me.

Swede