An EDF Introspective: S.R.E.A.M.

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Yeah, I guess I wondered why people did such crazy stuff for sex while I was in a relationship. My friends would always be getting ultra drunk, hooking up with some random and regretting it, and I would just sigh and shake my head. Now that I am out it is clear that sex is def something to be desired. However, I just cant sleep with a girl unless I care about her to at least some minimal standard. I have slept with a girl ive known less than a month exactly once and it was def in there with the worst experiences I have had. I guess my point is that if you know sex wont be good unless you really like the person it makes sex with randoms undesirable. This is where I am and it works pretty well. Of course, I am such a stoner that my sex drive might just be lower than normal.

[gonores]

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Now that I am out it is clear that sex is def something to be desired.

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Do you mean that now you're out you realize society is very highly driven by sex? Or did you realize that you yourself desire sex? Either way, you make this statement, but the question I posed in the original post is why is this so?

[PITTM]

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Now that I am out it is clear that sex is def something to be desired.

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Do you mean that now you're out you realize society is very highly driven by sex? Or did you realize that you yourself desire sex? Either way, you make this statement, but the question I posed in the original post is why is this so?

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I knew society was driven by sex, but when youre in a relationship and dont have to be like "trying" to go get sex you kind of stop being driven by it. So I guess I kind of felt like I was looking at it as an outsider being like "man wtf is with people and these ultra-urges?". Now that I am single, I understand the urges, I just do not understand how they are so strong in some people. There has never been a time where I would even consider paying for sex, much less doing some of the much worse [censored] people do for sex.

[private joker]

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I knew society was driven by sex, but when youre in a relationship and dont have to be like "trying" to go get sex you kind of stop being driven by it. So I guess I kind of felt like I was looking at it as an outsider being like "man wtf is with people and these ultra-urges?".

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Not the case with me. Even when I am in a long-term serious relationship (as I am now), I still feel the nagging urges to "get laid." When you're off the market, you just process them by thinking "that girl's hot, I'd hit on her if I were single, but I'm not, hey here comes my girlfriend, awesome I get to sleep with her tonight."

And when I'm at a bar/club/party or some place I used to meet girls when I was single, I feel like my hands are tied in some way; like I'm not allowed to do something my body wants to do, which is meet chicks and sleep with them. My brain and heart sort of tackle those instincts and say "you don't need to go through this trouble anymore; you found someone." But I still kind of feel like a sprinter standing on a track with a bandage on my ankle.