Got company. $100 missing. Here's what I've done.

Howard Beale · #1 11-21-2007, 04:29 PM

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Just let it slide, the kid will deny it, there is no way to actually prove it, it is just going to create awful tension around the holidays. Just keep the money hidden when he is around.

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This is what I'm doing. I've let the entire thing slide because I think it's best. I'm treating my nephew as if nothing happened but we are going to the mall soon and normally I'd buy him something but I won't this time and I'm not going to let my mother spend the amount she usually would on him. Also, his d-day is Friday. I was going to put $100 in the card but now he's getting a fiver.

To the poster who wanted to know what my brother would do:

He'd try to be calm but eventually go insane. I can't risk it.

Hopey · #2 11-21-2007, 04:55 PM

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This is what I'm doing. I've let the entire thing slide because I think it's best. I'm treating my nephew as if nothing happened but we are going to the mall soon and normally I'd buy him something but I won't this time and I'm not going to let my mother spend the amount she usually would on him. Also, his d-day is Friday. I was going to put $100 in the card but now he's getting a fiver.

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So you're not sure if he stole the money, but you're going to passive-aggressively punish him as if he did? So if he didn't take the money, he'll be completely perplexed as to what he did to make you suddenly treat him so much differently than usual. Good plan. [img]/images/graemlins/tongue.gif[/img]

Edit: Looks like you've already changed your mind.

MicroBob · #3 11-21-2007, 04:55 PM

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Just let it slide, the kid will deny it, there is no way to actually prove it, it is just going to create awful tension around the holidays. Just keep the money hidden when he is around.

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This is what I'm doing.

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normally I'd buy him something but I won't this time and I'm not going to let my mother spend the amount she usually would on him. Also, his d-day is Friday. I was going to put $100 in the card but now he's getting a fiver.

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WTF? How is any of this even close to 'letting it slide'?
Letting it slide means letting it slide.

If you want to give him some cold-shoulder type treatment and think that's best (which I think is a bad way to go but whatever) then go ahead and do that. But you aren't even coming close to the 'letting it slide' suggestion that you somehow think you are actually agreeing with.

Also - there still seems to be the very real possibility that you were shorted at the cage or had mis-counted how much you had won or something like that.

Howard Beale · #4 11-21-2007, 05:03 PM

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Just let it slide, the kid will deny it, there is no way to actually prove it, it is just going to create awful tension around the holidays. Just keep the money hidden when he is around.

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This is what I'm doing.

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normally I'd buy him something but I won't this time and I'm not going to let my mother spend the amount she usually would on him. Also, his d-day is Friday. I was going to put $100 in the card but now he's getting a fiver.

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WTF? How is any of this even close to 'letting it slide'?
Letting it slide means letting it slide.

If you want to give him some cold-shoulder type treatment and think that's best (which I think is a bad way to go but whatever) then go ahead and do that. But you aren't even coming close to the 'letting it slide' suggestion that you somehow think you are actually agreeing with.

Also - there still seems to be the very real possibility that you were shorted at the cage or had mis-counted how much you had won or something like that.

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You're right and as I've mentioned above I'm going to totally let it slide.

Re the necessity of telling my brother even at this time: He's on the patio eating a salad, my sister is sunning herself at the pool and mom is looking forward to going to the mall. Thanksgiving dinner is at 3:00 tomorrow. I can't bring myself to mess this up.

tuq · #5 11-21-2007, 05:11 PM

Howard,

It is a nice day today, isn't it?

Hopey · #6 11-21-2007, 05:12 PM

If your nephew is this retardedly brazen of a thief, he will get get caught in the act eventually. You don't need to be the one to break the news to your brother about his son. He either already knows that his son is a thief, or will find out soon enough.

MissT74 · #7 11-21-2007, 05:16 PM

Hey Howard, you going to be at Casino AZ tomm night? I might go after the ASU game if I know you'll be there. [img]/images/graemlins/smile.gif[/img]

(Turkey will be gone by then, nap will be taken, so come on out and play!)

T

Howard Beale · #8 11-21-2007, 05:36 PM

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Hey Howard, you going to be at Casino AZ tomm night? I might go after the ASU game if I know you'll be there. [img]/images/graemlins/smile.gif[/img]

(Turkey will be gone by then, nap will be taken, so come on out and play!)

T

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Hi, T, I most likely won't be there tomorrow. Sorry to miss you though but there will be a next time. Right now I've got this HUGE hangover because I played to 5:30am in an insane game, had to take a Vicodin at 3 because my leg was hurting so bad and only .5mg Xanax when I got home because I've got to taper off of it. So added w/ the 2 tequila martinis I'm going to have tomorrow w/ the incredible amount of food at the Hyatt buffet I doubt I'll be in any sort of shape to play until Friday. Let me know if you're still here then. [img]/images/graemlins/tongue.gif[/img]

Edit: Off to the mall now. I hope Beowulf is bearable. Check back later if this is still going.

MissT74 · #9 11-21-2007, 05:42 PM

We're eating at the Squaw Peak Hilton, going shopping early Friday Am (4am, ldo) will probably head home around 10am Friday, but if I stay I'll call you. [img]/images/graemlins/smile.gif[/img]

kisses,
T

tuq · #10 11-21-2007, 05:19 PM

Hopeless,

I don't think this act necessarily makes a career thief. When I was a kid I came across a huge jar of change at a friend of my parent's house and pilfered a bunch of quarters to use on arcade games. I was probably only 8-9 at the time and got caught and was punished. Maybe I was too young to know the difference between right and wrong, and at 14 he should know better, I dunno. But present a kid with a chance to score a lot more money than he is ever given and it's awfully tempting.

I never stole anything after that (well, besides music online, heh), never shoplifted anything, never had the urge. It was just like that scene in Boogie Nights where Don Cheadle is the lone person standing after the donut shop shootout; the temptation to steal the register money after the bank declined him for a small business loan was too strong to resist. And of course he went on to start a fantastic electronics store and the donut shop was probably insured so it all worked out for the best.