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05-06-2007, 03:12 AM
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Breaking up with a long-term girlfriend
Looking for advice or experience in breaking up with a longterm girlfriend. The relationship is basically just not a healthy one. Several close and good friends have talked to me about it.
how many chances do you give her? what do you do if think that she'll be self destructive after? jason 
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05-06-2007, 03:14 AM
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Re: Breaking up with a long-term girlfriend
relationships are pretty unique so i think you gotta give us at least a few paragraphs of what the situation is.
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05-06-2007, 03:36 AM
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Re: Breaking up with a long-term girlfriend
More info please. Hard to say anything atm.
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#7
05-06-2007, 03:37 AM
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Re: Breaking up with a long-term girlfriend
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relationships are pretty unique so i think you gotta give us at least a few paragraphs of what the situation is. [/ QUOTE ] we started going out both about 18 years old now 22. She was really immature at the start of it since it was her first relationship. Lots of drama and insecurity. Lately theres been minimal problems but still lots of tension and lots of arguments. Either its really good or really bad. There has been 1 time where she was in a questionable spot with another guy when she got drunk. Another drunken time she almost got into a fight with me I was trying to retrain her and luckily other friends was there. She was drunk and thats when theres always trouble so she stopped drinking but cant completely just because we're young and have friends that go out and drink every so often. And just recently she got drunk to belligerent point and caused a huge scene that should never have gotten to that point. Well just say I couldve gotten seriously hurt.
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#9
05-06-2007, 03:51 AM
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Re: Breaking up with a long-term girlfriend
Just break up with her. If she's self-destructive that's her business. Seriously, even if she's threatened stuff like that there's a very small chance she'd follow through. If you're really concerned tell her parents/friends whatever and let them deal with it.
Chances? If you don't like how she's acting and want to break up with her then you should break up with her. Nothing about chances or feeling wrong. If you want to break up then that's good enough. Life's too short to stay in bad relationships too long because you feel bad about breaking up or trapped in it by manipulation or whatever. It won't be easy but just do it and when you find a chick that actually makes you happy enough that you don't have to put up with tons of BS and don't feel like breaking up with her (you'll, in fact, want to stay with her for a long time) you'll thank yourself. Every day you spend in a bad relationship is another day's drain on your sanity and another day of missed opportunity finding a chick that'll actually make you happy. edit: also there's the fact that you guys started going out at 18. People develop and change a lot from 18. It's normal to drift apart from the friends/girlfriends you had at 18 as you get older and each go your separate ways. Chances are excellent you'll just keep drifting further apart from her. Just end it now.
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05-06-2007, 04:02 AM
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Re: Breaking up with a long-term girlfriend
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If there is any question as to whether she cheated on you (questionable situation with guy), you should have ended it then. [/ QUOTE ] we got in a fight she stormed out to bars. Later said she was drunk , true, and didn't realize one of the guys in the group of people she went off with was all over her , questionable. no sex or anything like that. Was sketchy in any case.
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