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Re: God help me, roommate drama advice wanted
To be honest, it's kind of your fault to get engaged in a roommate situation where you find a roommate who has such an off-schedule.
Yours is pretty typical, and you know you're a light sleeper. Being roommates with someone who works a graveyard/evening shift who is home and awake while you are sleeping is just asking for trouble. |
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Re: God help me, roommate drama advice wanted
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So she gets home ~3:30 AM, turns on the stereo and television (right outside my room) and becomes extremely belligerent when I politely (I think) ask her to keep the noise down. And then she rails on me about all the things I'm doing wrong as a roommate and this is who she is, and belittles me for taking antidepressants that she saw in the medicine cabinet, calls me a [censored], etc. [/ QUOTE ] Yeah, totally OP's fault... -Al |
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Re: God help me, roommate drama advice wanted
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[ QUOTE ] So she gets home ~3:30 AM, turns on the stereo and television (right outside my room) and becomes extremely belligerent when I politely (I think) ask her to keep the noise down. And then she rails on me about all the things I'm doing wrong as a roommate and this is who she is, and belittles me for taking antidepressants that she saw in the medicine cabinet, calls me a [censored], etc. [/ QUOTE ] Yeah, totally OP's fault... -Al [/ QUOTE ] Just picking a blind roommate and not finding out what their lifestyle is like is just dumb. Either OP knew girl had screwed up schedule and moved in anyway, or didn't find out before moving in. Both are dumb. If she told OP otherwise or had been living there for longer and suddenly she turned psycho, I can understand. (It's not clear how long OP has been living with said roommate, but does not sound long). |
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Re: God help me, roommate drama advice wanted
aK - I understand what you're saying... but you're kind of missing the forest for the trees here.
The situation would likely be fine and live-able if the roommate isn't a crazy drugged out bitch. And most people have the common sense (or do not have the self awareness) to hold off telling prospective roommates "yeah, I'm the worst f'in roommate ever, just a heads up". I mean what are you suggesting here, OP go back in time and choose a different situation? -Al |
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Re: God help me, roommate drama advice wanted
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Just picking a blind roommate and not finding out what their lifestyle is like is just dumb. [/ QUOTE ] How are you supposed to do this? Stalk them for a week? Ask to move in for three days just to see if they're a whack-job? If you have no common friends you go with you gut and hope for the best. |
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Re: God help me, roommate drama advice wanted
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[ QUOTE ] Just picking a blind roommate and not finding out what their lifestyle is like is just dumb. [/ QUOTE ] How are you supposed to do this? Stalk them for a week? Ask to move in for three days just to see if they're a whack-job? If you have no common friends you go with you gut and hope for the best. [/ QUOTE ] Would your gut tell you to room with someone who works a graveyard shift and is awake 100% of the time you're sleeping? Come on. A simple "oh hey, what do you do for your job/living/income?" is a pretty standard question when you speak with a person before you move in. This can follow up and lead to questions about weekend hobbies and such. It's not that hard to come across in normal conversation. Whatever. Apparently I'm the only one that doesn't blindly select a roommate without knowing anything about the person. Al: I totally get that it could be livable, but I think you overestimate the amount of normal people that live in this world. Having a person who works late nights like that would just send red flags all over the place for me. I know that this is an extreme case, but assuming that this person worked the same hours as OP, even if they were obnoxious about TV/stereo/drugs while he was home in the evening/afternoon it would be infinitely more bearable. |
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Re: God help me, roommate drama advice wanted
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[ QUOTE ] Just picking a blind roommate and not finding out what their lifestyle is like is just dumb. [/ QUOTE ] How are you supposed to do this? Stalk them for a week? Ask to move in for three days just to see if they're a whack-job? If you have no common friends you go with you gut and hope for the best. [/ QUOTE ] yah crazy people never lie. what's she going to say. when i'm drunk and on drugs, i like to come in really late, and be really loud, then flip out on you. are you ok with that? |
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Re: God help me, roommate drama advice wanted
aK - I haven't had a roommate in years, and only lived with a good friend of mine when I did have one... your point is not lost on me and of course people should do their diligence.
But the other thing you're not taking into account is how time-sensitive OP's (or anyone's) move is. If you've got say a week to find a new place you don't have time to be that picky. -Al |
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Re: God help me, roommate drama advice wanted
Obviously move out. But in the meantime, try getting a really loud fan for your room. Like an oldschool square metal one. I used to have a roommate who waited tables and would frequently have impromptu coke parties at 1am on Sun. and Mon. nights. Nice guy, he just couldn't say no to anyone when he'd had a few drinks. Anyway, apart from all the obvious steps of getting on him to stop, I found that a fan worked wonders for when it was just a few people in the living room sort of trying to be quiet.
This girl sounds like a miserable person and spoiled brat. |
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