Child Raising - Discipline issues

[RunDownHouse]

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the message of "I can hit someone when they upset me or do something they shouldn't" isn't one I think kids should get.

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I dunno, I think the message of, "If I do something I shouldn't, I'm going to get hurt" is a message most people could use more of. I acknowledge the argument that mental pain can be worse than physical, but there's plenty of evidence of all kinds that physical punishment can be deterrent without being debilitating.