New to OOT. Have custody of my nephews. LONG

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The OP's wife is a horrible wife.

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This isn't a fair statement.

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Ok ya you're right. Sorry OP.. But if she was a GOOD wife, OP wouldn't have had to start this thread asking what to do.

And I certainly consider nephews & nieces as "family", even if they are distant relations you've never really known before. Yes its gona be VERY difficult for OP to do whats best for the kids. But that is what good & loving people do in times of need, they take care of their family (and their spouse's family too).

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If OP and his wife really can't provide a stable home for the boys, they need to go somewhere else.

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True.. but they have been doing a good job this last year, they can certainly continue (with the right attitude), and the kids NEED them, no matter how hard times get. Its the selfish wife that is causing problems.. if she would support her husband (and the kids) more during these difficult times everybody would be much better off.

L8r.. BB

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The problem I have with your advice in this thread is that you're projecting your values and experiences on the OP. Your positions are too extreme and do not allow for the the variables that are involved in this situation.