Personal / dating / whatever life situation general advice thread

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Henry17's advice is not jiving with a lot of people (myself included) because he has different goals. He can correct me if I mistate his position, but I think he is coming from a position that is different from the others that are posting. His strategy (talk to only hot girls, dont ask for numbers, don't settle for 9's, etc) will succeed in creating an image of selectivity and desirability. This will result in a (relative) small number of dates with a "desirable" pool.

What some posters take issue with is either:
1) "tens" are not attainable for everyone
2) you won't get laid as often / why turn down an 8?
3) are you trying to date hot chicks or are you trying to meet "someone"

I couldn't think of a better way to explain 3), so I'll expand here. This is the source of my disagreement with Henry. I am married to a wonderful, good looking, somewhat shy woman who probably would not have offered her number. If I was following Henry's strategy, I may never have gotten to know her. This anecdote only serves to illustrate why it may be "optimal" from a long-term "happiness" perspective to not limit yourself to dating 10s only (the 10s that I have met would have driven me insane if we dated). You may all of a sudden wake up at 40/50/60/70 years-old as a lonely bachelor who sleeps with hot women but can't stand talking with any of them.

Most of Henry's posts have truth in them (ie. general tips for coming across as desirable to the opposite sex/not coming on too strong), but I would consider the implications of following all his advice, because you may walk out on a wonderful person if you don't get her number.