Open relationships

[FellKnight]

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I'm female and I'm the one that suggested it, because it was either that or nothing at all. He actually readily agreed because he had been in one before and it worked out for him then so why wouldn't it now? He knows that I'm not the jealous type and he certainly isn't or we never would have lasted as long as we've had due to my flirtatious ways and the fact that I take part in a very male world with my playing poker.

We don't go into details, but let each other know if and when something happens/will happen, etc etc, as a courtesty and out of respect.

Will it end up costing us our relationship? That remains to be seen, but so far we're both happy and it's been working this way well for the past 6-8 months.

T

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I think its got to be a unique situation though, and that the two of you definitely aren't like most...I mean, you basically said to him "let me hook up with other guys and I'll still hookup with you, otherwise, there's nothing between us". Doesn't sound like a fun spot for him to be in right? I suppose it also matters what you mean by 'relationship'. Are you two in love, but can hookup on the side? Is he as important as any other guy you might want something with? It just seems like it'd be easier to do if it wasn't anything serious, just hooking up, having fun, etc. I can't imagine this working out if there were any serious emotions involved, but thats speaking entirely from my point of view.

Whatever the details, it sounds like you're happy, so congrats, thats hard to find.

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Yeah I'm the other half of this relationship, and it was not at all what you are suggesting (give me an ultimatum). IIRC, it was over some drinks that we started talking about monogamy and realized that we both have similar views (i.e. that humans are not wired to be monogamous). It went from there, and led to a decision to just live and let live. As for me, I have not used the "freedom" to sleep around, but just knowing that I could should I meet someone allows me to have a lot more fun when partying away from MissT.

Fell