Are your regrets due to being too passive or too aggressive?

[Wynton]

I'm in a retrospective mood today, and it occurs to me that almost all of my regrets over my past conduct and decisions are related to a belief that I was too passive, rather than too aggressive. This is somewhat interesting, since most people who know me probably would not describe me as passive at all.

For example, consider sex and relationships. In retrospect, I can think of a number of missed opportunities which I deeply regret. On the other hand, I have virtually no regrets about taking a chance on a girl, even if it resulted in some embarassment at the time.

To a lesser degree, I have the same feeling about career-related decisions. Again, I can recall a few times when more aggression would have resulted in an opportunity for better work, or quicker advancement. But I don't think I can recall a single incident when being too aggressive hurt me.

So now I wonder how common my feelings are. I'm guessing that most people here, similarly, have a lot more regrets about being too passive, than about being too aggressive.

What do you think?