dating girl w/ kid issues

[bernie]

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also I am really good with kids, I don't give in but I also never lose my temper and I think if I were to apply myself I could do some real good here but it's not really my place to do so

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No, it's not your place.

Personally, I don't meet a chicks kids, especially this age, unless I get pretty serious with her. I learned that the hard way. The main thing is to protect the kid from dealing with yet another loss should you break up. It's not fair to the kid. And don't kid yourself that if you break up you'll still be there for the kid in some way. That's fantasy-land.

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She is very good for and if there wasn't this one issue I could something meaningful and longterm with her.


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This one issue is a doozy. Don't downplay it.

Dating young single mothers sucks. Not that there aren't exceptions, but there are much better situations to be in. 1 big thing I look for is how they handle their kids.

At least you saw this huge red flag now and not after you knocked her up and are looking at 18yrs of dealing with her.

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