dating girl w/ kid issues

[benfranklin]

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However, yesterday was the "first meeting" between myself and her son and it quickly became abundantly clear that she has a major problem when it comes to parenting. Her son does not listen to her at all, not for anything and she does nothing to rectify this.


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First thing to do is find out if he is always like that, or if it was excessive (i.e., because you were there).

Not that this is going to make a big difference. It is a given that an ill-mannered kid is going to resent you taking Daddy's place around the house. And any attempts by her now to discipline him are going to be associated with you in his mind.

The only way this will not be a train wreck is if you have little or no contact with the kid for some initial period during which she starts cracking down on his behavior. Then you can come in and support her discipline.